Hi everyone - I'm new to this support group so I'm hoping this is a good place for me to talk about my problem. I've been with my fiance for almost 4 years (engaged for 1) and we've also been living together for the past year. We've had many ups and downs in our relationship with regards to his family - he comes from a traditional Indian family and they've never approved of our relationship. They are also still mad that my fiance lied to them about our relationship for almost 2 years (he had also lied to me about when he told them). We worked through that time but his family still is upset about our being together and living together. Last night he told me that he has realized that he needs to go move back with this family to try to work out their relationship. he says if he doesn't he will always feel guilty about the way he left and he won't be able to put his whole heart into our relationship. He says he still wants to get married and spend our lives together but he needs to live with them until we get married. I am completely shocked by what is happening right now as we are already pretty far into planning our wedding for May. I don't know if I can trust that he really still intends to marry me and I don't want to wait around for him if he's just gonna decide after 6 more months that he can't marry me without his family's approval. We talked all through the night and he agreed that we should go to counseling so that we know we're doing everything we can. But I am completely and utterly devastated and heartbroken. Because of other issues going on in my life (long story), I'm not close with my family right now and I would usually lean on them at a time like this. Any words of advice or encouragement would be appreciated to help me through. Thank you!
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