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I need some advice please...im having a small problem. well i was in a long relationship of almost 7yrs...we got married, for a short year, then split up almost a year ago. i knew he wasnt the one but was stupid and young and went thru w the marriage anyway. well i am now with the man i truly want to marry and im so freakin happy with him...i wouldnt trade him for anyone in the world...i have never felt this way about anyone in my whole life. but anyways,i recently had to contact my ex bc we still have money matters together of course, and we got along...we had a real conversation, and i still care about him as a person, a friend, and hes always been family to me. of course the new man doesn't want me to talking to him. hes not controlling in any way, and i know i would feel the same way about him talking to his ex's. it just hurts at the same time bc i care about my ex. not in love,but he was my first everything. we lost a child together, our first, and today he text me asking if he could take me out for mother's day...i just thought that was so thoughtful...and hes the only one who gives me true comfort about the loss. what should i do?! i cant disrespect the man i know for a fact i wanna be with the rest of my life, but at the same time, i would feel terrible and not content on saying goodbye to my ex forever. he treated me very good, but so does my current boyfriend....can anyone please give me advice....????
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They're both hanging out with me right now.
In my case, my ex will always be in my life because we have a daughter together. Any new love interest is just going to have to accept that fact.
If you feel strongly enough about having your ex as a friend in your life and there is trust in your new relationship, it really shouldn't be that big of a deal. If you find yourself having to defend your friendship with your ex, then you may want to examine whether or not your new love is threatened. Sometimes we can't change how other people feel about things. They either accept it or they don't.
those are just some suggestions. another thing, talk to ur ex...make sure he doesnt have any feelings left for you, cuz if he does that can jeoparize ur relationship with ur bf now...
hope this helps