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equality in a healthy relationship?

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My grandmother whom I love and respect very much allways told me that one person in the relationship has to "wear the pants"
Do you think it is better for one person to be "in control" or that things should be more equal or does it depend on the couple?
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i think both parties should be able to equally contribute their unique giftings in the relationship. from what i've learned in all the marriage classes we've been too, that makes the healthiest relationship.
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Its not fair to control ones life!

We are in this together, but we should have control on where our own lives go.

Having control of your own life, with a partner who will help you reach your goals is key!
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I'm agreeing with that. You should be in control of your own life. They should be in control of their life. And you both should be working towards similar ends on the same path.
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answer #2 and #3 were spot on, you should only have control of you're own life, you don't have the rights to anyone elses.

Perfectly said, bravo!
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part of marrage is partnership. an unequal partnership can lead to disaster depending on the people involved.
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Take it in turns to be on top.

Swings and roundabouts really, circumstances dictate certain things.

I think each partner's strengths should contribute to an equal footing though, regardless of anything else.

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Ours began eqally but more and more recently I am being controlled and its not nice.
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