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Do you stay..........

deleted_user
deleted_user
Do you stay w/ someone who is all wrong for you, just b/c you love him & don't know why they do some of the things they do? I mean my b/f lyed about how much his car payment was when he bought his car 2 weeks ago. Also he bought stuff on e bay which he doesn't seem to remember I have pass codes to his e bay account & lies about how much he pays for stuff on there. What I don't seem to get is when I lie about anything_________he jumps all over me. What's the deal w/ any of that?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've heard of guys that do this, and I think you should let him know that it bothers you when he lies, but i think unless he's doing something that is really harmful to you, you can stay with him through this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I just wish I knew why he does this, I'm sure I'm not the only one he's done this to. He was married in the past, & well he lost everything in the marriage. Maybe he just wants to feel superior when he lies the way he does. It really sux for me though b/c we live together, so I can find this shit out for myself, & alot of times after I do I regret it, b/c I wish I didn't know, but that never seems to stop me from looking.
peggsu2
peggsu2
Why would you stay with osmeone you can't trust? If he lies about little nothings, then what's the point. Maybe he's a compuslive lyar?
deleted_user
deleted_user
trust is the foundation upon which relationships are built... If there isn't any trust then what is the point?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Unfortunately, I was your boyfriend. I don't know why we lie, except that I didn't feel like being judged, usually because I knew deep down it was something I shouldn't be doing or would affect us financially, etc.

It's a hard thing to call a person on, but the sooner he knows you know and want to work on it, the better. Otherwise, he'll keep lying, you'll keep finding out and then, you won't be able to trust him. Ever.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I believe in compromise...and believe to each his/her own -- but, personally...I will never compromise in the lying department. You lie to me once, you're done...I'm very up front about this in the beginning so there is never an excuse..never an "I didn't know." ....I wish you the best for you!
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