jusy to set the background of the story :
i haven’t had parental supervision since I was 12 and I haven’t seen my parents since I was 18. Both my sister and I basically raise ourselves and parented intuitively and liberally, but with a strong hand. Her son is 35 and successful. Despite our parents being neglectful, we come from a generational scholars. Most of our family member hold at least one 4 year degree and more.
My children are 22 (boy) and almost 18 (girl). They have been living on their own for almost 2 years. Their father and I are divorced, but we come over every week ( they live together). MThe kids are also very successful and independent. Despite of that, my son has never had a gf due to being shy and picky and my daughter had the same bf for almost 3 years and they still have not had sex.
I don’t forbid my children to have sex, but I explained to them that if you want to have sex, you need to be mentally ready for all the responsibility that comes with it, including the possibility of getting pregnant, dumped by your partner and for my girl - a possibility of unfavorable pregnancy outcome.
So, the girl and her bf are both good students, her bf got into an Ivy League engineering college and my daughter is going to study premed at a state school on full scholarship.
The boy’s mother has some serious issues. She came from an average American family, except she was abused by her father and all 3 of her sisters ended up in foster care, so did she. Out of all the siblings, she is the only one that has been married for over 20 years, has a good job and hit Jesus HARD. She also had a miscarriage and lost twins at some point, so she put all her energy into the only child she has.
Due to her issues, she is extremely controlling of her only child and is borderline abusive. She causes extreme stress to my daughter, but I think the boy is solid, and I would love for them to get married.
However - the mother is going to ruin their marriage the way she has always been trying to ruin their relationship.
She does things like go through my daughter’s purse secretly, tells her to change her clothes if she thinks they are too revealing ( which they are not ), excludes my daughter from vacations and family events ( like her bf’s 18th birthday), does not allow him to come with us on vacations.
My daughter is just gorgeous and has a smoking body, so everything looks sexy on her. It’s kind of hard to hide size D boobs on a size 6 body.
Anyway.. my every time my daughter gets upset by the woman’s shenanigans to the point of crying, she asks me if she should break up with the bf. I want her to be happy but I think the mother will never leave them alone.