I meant this post for HS. Damn that's embarrassing! Sorry guys.

Come again.

no need to be embarrassed...its a perfectly normal discussion....a part of most intimate relationships...your human!

Maybe the guy came erarlier ?

Haha, but yeah after all the commotion in the HS group about kids reading and participating in some of the discussions, I'm pretty sure this is an even worse group to post something like this in...haha.

And now DS won't let me repost it, as if it's spam.

if you want to repost it, you just have to reword it a little bit....I've run into that problem before...stupid DS...

cuz sometimes you DO need to ask a legitimate question on more than one board

Before my current boyfriend, i HATED SEX!! I thought it was horrible and a waste of time, I NEVER climbaxed! EVER!!! I could only climax with...myself. However, when I met my current I decided I was gonna work hard, no matter how long it took..to have one. And it took FOREVER the first few times! I was tired and sweaty and couldnt breathe, but dammit I climaxed and it was GREAT!! It got better and better. But as time wore on and he treated me like shit...and he made me feel horrible about myself...I rarley climax anymore. So now sex sucks again. But its ok, I'm used to it. My point is that it is possible! You can and will one day!! Maybe I will too again!

Sex is definitely a two way street. If your partner is only interested in getting his self off then he has missed the boat of a greater excitement. Sex is so much more appealing when you see your partner in ecstasy at your touch and play. I don't mind the discussions, hell we had much deeper discussion when I was in high school a few years back.

Wait you're 21 that's only a year younger than I am, who gave you issue?

I have spoke with women my age in their 20's , 30's 40's and 50's and over half of them have never had a orgasim. I have experience it a few times in my life. Just because u don't have one don't mean you can't enjoy your sexual interactions.

A book I think will help answer all your questions and more is "The Elusive Orgasm" A woman's guide to why she can't and how she can orgasm
Dr Vivienne Cass

BTW I luv sex!

i think it fits here just as well.

yes, some people just take longer. I have friends that can get off in under 2 minutes. I take 10-15 AT LEAST. it takes a lot of work to.

i can say that from the time i lost my virginity up until 18 or so, i only had maybe a handful of vaginal orgasms. they just dont happen often for me. sex felt good, orgasms just didnt happen. It wasnt until i was 18 that i was able to give myself a clitoral orgasm with a vibrator. after that, it was a lot easier.

however, i was 23 before i was able to bring myself to orgasm with my hand! as far as oral? only 2 people in my life have been able to get me off that way. and yes, a lot of it has to do with how its being done.

In order to let your partner know how to bring you to orgasm you have to know yourself. Don't wait for a guy who "knows what he's doing" to happen along. Figure it out yourself....otherwise you may have to wait years. Once you figure it out you can make it happen with your partner. Good luck

I'm a guy, but maybe it has to do with you have trouble relaxing? "Letting yourself go"? Losing yourself in a feeling or fantasy?

It's true. You have to fully relax. And at 20 years old chances are high you're not doing that. At 20 girls are still so concerned about what they look like and if their partners are happy and what will happen next week on gossip girl. Haha. It will get better in time :) just keep at it!