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Why do you feel 'they' are not happy with you ?

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I was one signature away from a divorce, thats what I mean not happy with me, but this is the only thing shes said that I need to work on.

Was very lacking in confidence and then had breakdown. Now NO FEAR NO LIMITS NO SHAME MAD AND GLAD. Dont like me then ffffffade away had stutter too

i deal with low self esteen too. it's hard on my husband, too. hand in there a keep pressing forward on your healing journey. don't give up...

I am in the same boat with my husband. I truly feel that he doesnt want me since our baby died

I have always been a very confident person. ...been told it is a very sexy trait..hee hee. I think it is something that takes some building up to if you don't have it. Speaking in front of a group - telling a joke, etc. When you walk into the room, the party starts, etc...
I would just be confident regardless of what others thinks. Her being happy with you or not should not make any difference on how confident you are.

Perhaps your wife is talking about a different kind of 'confidence'...maybe she wants you to be a little cheeky, daring or spontaneous around/with her, confident in yourself like you once were with her before you two got married...but that is just my guess since everyone else have already given you what you need to know on a different side.

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Just be yourself at all times.

Knowing that you can be will help build confidence in Yourself.

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I hear that but what I do is tell myself "that I dont have to feel that way "and that "I am who I am".Sometimes I slip but for the most it has worked.Now I dont care what people think,maybe to much at times.

And....pointing out the good things about yourself and remembering them should help too...hugs!

Am I getting this right? You say you're confident except with your wife? I know women like their man to be assertive. Self-confidence and self-esteem is about the self. Assertion shows your capability to be the protector. You're the protector and provider, whether or not you feel confident.

Well, maybe you just lack confidence in your relationship. Perhaps counseling will help...joint and individual.

Marriage is a 50/50 street, and these problems are not one person's fault. Maybe the two of you together are not a good mix? I'd say, get her to talk about what WOULD make her happy, and what she means by "confidence". Does she mean she needs emotional distance from you, and you're too needy? Some more particulars here...

I too have had women come onto me when I was absolutely not looking for a relationship and was simply out looking for a good time (to have a few laughs and maybe get laid). I didn't feel comfortable being that animalistic sex-machine ALL THE TIME, so, when I tried to get to know them a bit more closely on an emotional level, they shied away. What the hell is wrong with American society?

#13, I agree with the 50/50 part of a marriage, but I want to stress that both parties are 100% responsible for the relationship. They're both totally responsible for all that happens or doesn't happen. I know some feel threatened when I say it takes two to Tango, but it's true!