Oh sweetheart, I'm sorry you are starting out this way, with such problems. I will tell you it is a hard road to toll. Yes it can break you up. You have to work very hard at your relationship with each other, and put each other first!
Maybe its time to sit down and find out why they don't like you?
Best wishes.

they give no reason...scott has tried to talk with them...they just say they dont know me..but they are going to judge someone they dont know...what is that all about...i dont know...i cant lose him over this..but i will not make him pick me or them..that would not be fair

Why haven't you met them. Maybe its time. Maybe if they met you they would like you. Maybe you have to take the first step. Maybe :) No don't make him choose, he has to do that all on his own. If he chooses his parents, well...you don't want to be in a relationship where his parents are always most important in life. If he chooses you he is showing a strong commitment to love you and care for you. Meet the parents! Good luck.

HIS FAMILY LIVE IN IOWA AND WE ARE IN FLA...WE WERE GOING TO MOVE THERE AND SCOTT ALREADY GOT A REALLY GOOD JOB...BUT KNOW I DONT KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN...THIS SUCK BIG TIME..

Don't want to be a nosey body,, but who exactly is it that says they don't like you? If they have not met you, Scott may be feeling something that is not really there. Is the family excited that you are moving there?

his dad and his girl friend...his big brother and his wife...and i even heard them tonight over the phone talking bad about me...he was crying...i wish i could help him out more...but they are trying to make him pick...he said he will be home on the 2nd..and will not be taking the job in Iowa..that no amount of money is worth the pain that is being caused to him and his "family"....i am proud of him for standing up for himself...that is good..

Ahhh, sweety,,, give me their number and I'll set them straight for ya! (wish I could)!!!
If they do not even know you then they are being mean, cruel and vicious! Not to mention what it is doing to him! I feel so sorry for him.. He probably just wants to be happy and to have his family love you as much as he does!
I really wish I could do more!
I will pray for you and Scott!

Did he have a previous seious relationship before you? What I mean is, if he did have, did your family like her?

My family absolutely despises my wife. They blame her for things I do. For this I have distanced myself from my family and I focus on her. I have anxiety attacks when I have to go over there for things. It can be a HUGE factor into any relationship. He sounds like a good guy for sticking up for you. They treat our daughter differently then they do my other kids. I have been with my wife since she was 7 months pregnant and this girl is every much my daughter as my own flesh and blood, they just don't treat her the same and I can't respect that. I told them they won't see her unless they can be civil and not childish. My wife is petrified of ever having a child with me because of them and the though of them wanting to see the baby. Her thoughts are if they can't treat our daughter right what gives them the right to see any child we have.

So bottom line yes families can ruin relationships. You need to focus on the 2 of you and make yourselves as strong as possible for each other. He is sacrificing alot and will need you.