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boyfriend troubles

deleted_user
deleted_user
me(15) and my boyfriend(16) have been going out for almosts 3 months now. but it seems like we arnet even dating. its like were just friends. i told him that i thought that way and that we didnt act any differently when we were dating then when we were friends. he agreed and said hell act more like a boyfriend but nothings really changed. the only time weve held hands was at a homecoming dance and thats after our friends put our hands together. i want to be like the couples in the hallways that hold hands and that meet each other after every class and that hang out on the weekends. what should i do? i dont want to freak him out.
jimmysquirrel
jimmysquirrel
it sounds like noth of you aren't really ready for a true relationship. i am not being mean, please knot that, but, many people start dating at too young(not physically, but emotionall)... hell, i know i wasn't trul;y ready for good and healthy relationships until about a year ago(at age 25)
kamib
kamib
yeah, i'm 28 and still don't have a clue.

one trick i do know though is to figure out what you want first and then look for someone who can give you what you want. it's much easier than finding someone and then asking them to change.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You guys are young and shouldn't really worry about that too much. If you really like him, it is best to start off the way you are, like friends, then when he is more comfortable, things will pick up. Maybe you have to be the one to make the move. I say don't rush things, it will make it worse.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Lots of good advice here for you...
I'd like to ask, why don't you take his hand while walking down the hall? Or is this a matter of you wanting him to take your hand?
Y'all are young! I know that sucks to hear but there is no rush to this kind of stuff in life...have fun, enjoy it...if your not enjoying it, well move and and find something you do enjoy!
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