My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months now. I have had several long term relationships in the past, but this is his first healthy relationship (he had 2 cheating girlfriends in the past) even though he's older than me by 3 1/2 years. Up to this point I have had a lot of fun with him and haven't had any complaints about our relationship with the possible exception that he can be a little jealous at times. In the past week or so he has started talking to me about the fact that he is no longer happy in our relationship. He keeps thinking about the fact that this is his first real relationship and he wants to know what else is out there. He doesn't know how you can tell if your with the person you should be with, unless you have seen what else is out there. He has also started talking more about other girls that we know and has been talking to them about our relationship, which never bothered me before, but now he doesn't tell me about it for a few days until I bring it up. I know he's not cheating on me, but I don't know how to deal with this. I'm basically just sitting here waiting for him to make up his mind as to whether or not I'm good enough for him. The only thing keeping him with me right now is the fact that he doesn't want to lose me incase there isn't anyone else out there because he knows that once he breaks up with me, there's no coming back to me. I've also told him that I won't go allow us to go on a "break" because to me it feels like he just wants to go out there, mess around with some other girls, and if he doesn't find one that he likes then he gets to come back to me. I should also mention that I'm not going to have sex until I'm married, and he doesn't like that very much even though he has known about that from the beginning of our relationship and it has never bothered him before. I don't really want to lose him because I love him, but I went through this exact same thing with my ex-boyfriend and I was broken for a long time after that relationship ended. The strong, self-sufficient woman in me is telling me to dump him now and find some one who can appreciate me the way I deserve, but I don't want to dump him for being honest with me and telling me he is having a moment of weakness. I don't want to leave him, but I don't want to keep being strung along waiting for him to make up his mind. It's draining me emotionally, and every time he brings it up it hurts me more and more. It's giving me flash backs to my ex-boyfriend from a year ago, and I don't want things to end the same way, but I don't know how to change them. I also feel like I can't talk to him about it because I need to be"cold and distant" to protect myself from getting hurt even more and although I've explained to him why I can't talk to him about it, he wants to know what I'm thinking and how I feel about it. Will being closed off drive him away? Should I care if it does? Should I break up with him first? What do I do??
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