Yes try to see a couselor.. Talk to a pastor at a local church they are very helpful.. Also try to see what is bothering him.. He is gonna use you as a scape goat. Why not your there right? Let him know that it won't be tolerated no type of abuse.. Let him know you want to help him..

ohhh yah i agree. i told him im willing to help but iam not going to put up with it.. i said i want you to get help

ohhh yah i agree. i told him im willing to help but iam not going to put up with it.. i said i want you to get help

He definitely needs to speak to someone. In the meantime, don't take any kind of verbal abuse...I don't care what is the 'reason' for it. Back off and give him space if he is saying that you are bothering him by calling him too much at work.

He also may need something as simple as an anger management or stress management group.

i agree and thank you everyone for the advice. iam actually going away this wkend so iam hoping it will be better when i get back.. im not gonna call him as much when iam away

get couples counciling go to some of his sessions and go yourself also research bipolar,i am bipolar and i know i made life hell for my husband for awhile and if we would have just started all of this when i found out about being bp i think it would have been easier all around

Get out of this relationship. Some of his anger is being directed at u, therefore, before he makes it an excuse to hit you'd better run for the hills. His mental health is NOT your responsiblity. Please don't be codependant, this too is unhealthy. He is the one who needs to persue help for himself, not u. Do not get in to the habit of taking responsiblitiy when it is not yours to take. Run, Run, Run!!!!!!!!!!!

YES!! If you love him and want to be with him this needs to change! I didnt think my EX would ever hit me either. People do things they never thought they would in a fit of anger. Please go as soon as you can!

With respect to the others who are offering advice, I believe your first step is to read up on bipolar disorder - there are so many to choose from, I wouldn't hazard a recommendation. Know what you're getting into with someone with bipolar. There are things you can do to short circuit his anger, but you both know how to do it. Counseling for someone with bipolar is like counseling for someone with a club foot. He can go to all the counseling you can afford, but he's still got a club foot. You need to understand what you're up against, he needs to agree to stay on his meds and see his doctor on schedule. If he veers from that, he has to know that the consequences include you stepping back until he gets back on schedule. You can have a normal relationship with someone with bipolar, but they must stay on course. That's the toughest part. Its up to you whether its worth the effort.

It sounds like he needs some anger management counseling and if he is indeed bipolar, maybe some medication.

I would say that if he is annoyed about you calling him at work, give him some more space (even though you shouldn't have to feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time). I would also suggest that when he is angry and yelling, be calm and rational. Don't yell back and get into it with him because that might make it worse.

If I were you, I wouldn't tolerate his behavior for much longer. It's one thing if he goes and gets help and things start to improve. But if he doesn't end up getting help and this continues, it is definitely emotionally and verbally abusive. You shouldn't have to tolerate that- you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel good.

I don't think people with bipolar are "relationship material". Their moods change with the wind.