I have recently been in a relationship for 6 months. We have had ups and downs but for the most part it has been beautiful. In his past relationship he was told by his girlfriend at the time that she was pregnant. She had the child and in short he later found out that the child was not his. He took two DNA tests to determine paternity. He was extremely heartbroken. Since this time he has remained in contact with his X-girlfriend to check up on the child he once thought was his. He says he and his x are only friends that is all. This bothers me because I feel he has not cut ties with his past. He has told me that he will have his x girlfriend call me and to explain that is a mutual relationship. I dont know what to think or say. He cares for this child but, I feel he is not leaving the past behind, and perhaps he still has unresolved issues with his X. He claims he doesnt and only talks to her to talk about the child. So my question is what should I do? Should I support him and accept this relationship? Should I find this as a red flag? I know he loves me and I know he truly wants us to work out, but my jealousy and lack of trust is killing me and I dont know what to do.
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