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So this is a continuation of the baby clothes debate post from a few weeks ago.
After that fight, my boyfriend came home, apologized, and took the clothes out of the house. We have been doing alright and are completely ready for baby to get here- or so I thought.
We moved a dresser to the end of the hallway and decided to store clothes that our baby won't be wearing yet in it for now. We have our laundry basket on top of it. We had a mirror on top of it, and last weekend, my boyfriend decided to take the mirror off and put it into storage elsewhere. When he took the mirror off, he noticed that some clothes had fallen behind the dresser. I wasn't paying that much attention and figured it was just a sock or something from our laundry that fell, and that was the end of it.
Yesterday, I was doing some reorganizing and ended up putting some more things into the dresser of baby clothes that the baby won't fit into yet. I open up the dresser and what's there? Some of the baby clothes from my boyfriend's ex that he promised to get rid of. They weren't sitting on top or anything- they were shoved in the very back and it was clear that he intentionally hid them.
I am TOTALLY mad and really at the end of my rope. Yesterday I was going to confront him, but he'd had a bad day at work and I felt like bringing it up would make a fight escalate more than necessary. I don't even know how to approach the topic.
I have considered calling every single ex I've ever had and letting them know I'm pregnant- since he doesn't see a problem with getting baby clothes from HIS ex, surely he won't mind getting them from my ex's as well, right?
Does anyone have any advice about to handle this? It's about more than just clothes to me- now he's choosing them over me in addition to being disrespectful of my feelings and lying to me.
After that fight, my boyfriend came home, apologized, and took the clothes out of the house. We have been doing alright and are completely ready for baby to get here- or so I thought.
We moved a dresser to the end of the hallway and decided to store clothes that our baby won't be wearing yet in it for now. We have our laundry basket on top of it. We had a mirror on top of it, and last weekend, my boyfriend decided to take the mirror off and put it into storage elsewhere. When he took the mirror off, he noticed that some clothes had fallen behind the dresser. I wasn't paying that much attention and figured it was just a sock or something from our laundry that fell, and that was the end of it.
Yesterday, I was doing some reorganizing and ended up putting some more things into the dresser of baby clothes that the baby won't fit into yet. I open up the dresser and what's there? Some of the baby clothes from my boyfriend's ex that he promised to get rid of. They weren't sitting on top or anything- they were shoved in the very back and it was clear that he intentionally hid them.
I am TOTALLY mad and really at the end of my rope. Yesterday I was going to confront him, but he'd had a bad day at work and I felt like bringing it up would make a fight escalate more than necessary. I don't even know how to approach the topic.
I have considered calling every single ex I've ever had and letting them know I'm pregnant- since he doesn't see a problem with getting baby clothes from HIS ex, surely he won't mind getting them from my ex's as well, right?
Does anyone have any advice about to handle this? It's about more than just clothes to me- now he's choosing them over me in addition to being disrespectful of my feelings and lying to me.
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I believe that you both need counseling. He is lying to you and being disrespectful. Your revenge plan is passive agressive and you are projecting that he would feel the same way if you got gifts from your ex-boyfrineds. Honest and open communication is critical to any realtionship. If this issue cannot be resolved, how will you handle more serious ones?