I am a 32 yr. old married male. We have one child, a 2 yr. old son. Due to the failing economy, last fall I was forced to close down the small buisness that I owned shortly after my wife was returning to full time work as a realtor and office assistant. We live in a small town in the hills of central California where there is just not much work right now, but I am always still looking. The problem started several months ago and is gradually getting worse, that problem is: My wife has been distancing herself from me (and somewhat our son), our sex life "was" great but, began to go downhill until it only exists when she is basically just really horny, the intimacy, romance and, passion are totally gone in the bedroom and every where else. She says that she just needs more space and "me" time but, the more I give, the more she wants. We are going to couples therapy but, last week was our first appointment in 6 weeks because my wife kept cancelling our appointments. I know she is stressed from work, working hard, and putting in six days a week, but we never get any "us" time anymore, even when we have a chance, she will look for things to put on E-bay instead of focusing on us. I make sure she has plenty of "me" time, to relax, get out, or whatever she wants. I make sure that there are no chores in or around the house for her to do so that she can just relax when she gets home, and that includes taking care of our son all the time too. A lot of other small things happned throughout the laast month that all added to me finally asking her if there was someone else. She got all upset and mad and hurt, and said no!, and for the most part, I do believe her. She does'nt want to really kiss me or hug anymore, she never says I love yo to me unless, I say it first and even then not always. Yesterday, the 3 of us woke up, I made breakfast, and then she locked herself in the bedroom and spent the majority of the day laying in bed instead of with her husband and son. What is going on, what else can I do, I am already so messed up due to all of this that I even started seeing a psychiatrist.
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