I've been dating this guy for nearly 3 months now. At first I didn't really want to go out with him, but we ended up hitting it off and within a month he told me he loved me. I thought I did, I think I do but I'm having second thoughts. He's so amazing to me, he's so understanding of all of my problems and boy are there a lot! He's very caring and loving and just wants to take care of me. There are so many things that are great, when it comes down to it we have the closest thing to a healthy perfect relationship. We can talk about everything and when either one of us is upset about something we can talk about it and work it out. But lately I am just so irritated with him. It seems like EVERYTHING he does bugs me! The way he eats, the way he drinks. He can be such a pig sometimes and I tell him how much certain things bother me and he just doesn't get it! I really thought this was the one, everyone in my family loves him and we talk about the future together. But we are being smart about it and don't want to jump right into like moving in together. I don't even have a sex drive anymore. We were having sex all the time and have a great sexual chemistry but something just doesn't seem right or seems like it's missing. My problem is I don't know if this is just a faze and I'll get over it, or if I'm "over it" all together. I recently got an IUD about 4 weeks ago although my doctor said I shouldn't have any problems with a very small amount of hormones I can't help but wonder if that's what it is. I have never been able to take any sort of hormone type birth control and we can't use condoms for many reasons. So we felt this was our only option. I really don't know if I want to try to have my own kids or not, so I don't think tubal ligation is really a smart option at this point in my life. But I am so unhappy right now I don't know what to do. I have so many other issues that could be making me feel this way I don't know if it's him or me!! Sometimes I feel like telling myself there is no one else out there that could possibly treat me this good and be so understanding of all my problems so I should just shut up and be happy. But I can't force myself to if I'm not! Is it him?? Or is it me?? Is it depression/bipolar? Is it the IUD? I don't know how to talk to him about this. Please help! Thanks for listening, I know this was long!
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