I am a mother of three, three year old boys, the oldest will be 4 in days, and the twins turned three, months ago. I am married but it is mostly not happily, I get that relationships have problems and that couples fight but we just seem so very different now. At the beginning things were great, we then hit a really rough patch and there was a lot of drinking and we split, that was 6 years ago. We were apart for 6 months and he had another girlfriend and I was trying to get on my feet, living with mom. We were literally states apart. He called often telling me that he missed me and was not happy in the current situation. I decided that it was worth a second attempt. We married in 2004 it was great, we were great, we were going to make it in this crazy world. We decided that it would be great if he made the switch over to active duty reserves in the military, that meant that we were moving 1200 miles away from any family or friends we had, but again, we were great. In 2006, after the birth of our twin boys (traumatic all on it's own,born 2 months premature and we almost lost the eldest of the twins) after all of my "instincts" told me he was not faithful, and lots of questioning, I found out that he had been cheating for just about our whole marriage. He says it was because when he went to schooling for his job and had to go to different trainings with the military, he did not have me so he need to. I like a fool decided to stay together, mostly because I had no job, no family around, no friends and three very young babies. Then in 2008 I found out he had been at it again, He had come back from Iraq in 2007, now I lived in our home town and he was still stationed 1200 miles away and he had been with at least 5 different girls, one of witch told me that he had been telling everyone that we were not together any longer, (she was an 18/19 year old, and very apologetic). Now still together, 2009, he thinks I should just get over it or leave him, I am finding it hard to get over and surprisingly even harder to leave. Currently I have no car, no job, and three boys who are not yet in school. I don't know what to do. At this very moment he is preparing to head out to a local bar "alone" and does not see why I don't like it. Am I crazy to feel concerned or stupid for staying?
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