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deleted_user
deleted_user
My husband is 34 years older than me which I have no problem with but he always seems to be worried that I will eventually leave him b/c there is such a gap. I love him more than anything and cannot imagine ever being without him. He is worried that he will not be, at his age, what I will need at mine in the years to come. Is there anyone else out there that is in a similar relationship? Any advice?
lkc9528
lkc9528
I know how he feels. Im going to be 33 next month and dating a 22 year old. We've known each other for 6 years and we're the best of friends. I cant help but constantly worry and feel like I should stop it cause it will never work.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have a male friend who is older than me, who calls me "kid" sometimes. That can be pretty annoying because I think of us on the same maturity level. Not sure what it is with the "age" thing.

Your husband is insecure and is afraid of losing you. That is good in a way but him focusing on it can be very bad. You might want to try & reassure him by telling what makes him so special to you that you wouldn't find in a younger, less mature man. Good luck!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would have no problem with someone being 10 yrs older than me, but much more than that, and I think it would be hard to relate.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Iam 23 and dating a guy whose about to be 19. I worry sometimes if the age diff will affect us in the long run.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am 33 and my wife is 23. We starting dating when I was 29 and she was 20. I don't act my age I guess I am a kid at heart. I do however lately want to start settling down and live more a family style life. I do fear this isn't what she wants at such a young age and I am always fearful she will leave. This coupled with my anxiety and depression sometimes makes things very difficult. She tells me she can't imagine being without me and that she loves me and I know she does because she met me at my worst phase of depression and has stuck by my side. The age difference still plays into effect sometimes and it is hard dealing with some of her friends since I really have nothing in common with the age difference. We are married with a child and they are all single going out to bars and partying. I can't but help to think some part of her longs for that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your 22, not being funny but hes got a point. I'm not trying to get at you at all, i dont judge things or ppl i dont know. You may love him more than anything...now, but things may change. 34 years is a awfuly big age gap. Your so young, what about children?.. and going out any having fun...this may not mean anything to you now, but eventually you may think you missed out.
Just my opinion

Jade x
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