
Healthy Relationships Support Group
No relationship is perfect. A long-term relationship requires constant effort to understand each other, fix misunderstandings, solve problems and continue to grow as both individuals change and evolve. How we deal with our misunderstandings is the focus of this community. Join us to find support, get advice, and share your experience with your relationship.
I can see why you think you may very well be doing the right thing, but it is still nothing I would choose to do.
Even knowing that it might make things worse, I'm afraid I would feel compelled to 'fess up'.
Secrets are not something that I would want to be a part of my relationship with someone I love.
If the situation were reversed, I would rather know the 'horrible truth', must as it would break my heart.
It feels like a matter of respect to me, and I have the utmost respect for the man whom I love. If I fell down in showing him respect, by kissing someone else, I would feel like it should be up to him to decide whether or not it 'meant anything'.
and your only human
dont worry about it
put it behind you and move on
have you learnt anything from this? if the answer is yes then your guilt has served a purpose,, forget about it and move on
if this were me, i'd be asking myself why this happened (does lean on the drink; there still had to be a motivation of some sort whether it makes sense or not) and then make my decision.