My gf is the best woman I've seen in in my entire life, bar none. But she accuses me of saying demeaning, hurtful things... after I hurt her and we discuss and I understand what it was that hurt her, I still have such a tough time catching myself the next time. Sometimes my comment is as seemingly innocent as "you're kidding!" or, "no way!" and she thinks I'm questioning her judgment and putting her down. Other times it may be more overt... but I never mean it in a demeaning way. She calls me "verbally abusive" and I have such a hard time swallowing that! There are times I think she's being overly sensitive, but the love she gives (everyone) is so rich and pure I don't want her to change at all. Anyone know how I can become more sensitive to HER? Any books or techniques I should look at? Thanks!
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