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Ok so My Ex is coming to see me next week and im soo scared . when I was with him I would actually make my self sick cause I thought I was fat And always stressed about him thinking I was ugly . Like he was always telling me I was pretty and he thought I was perfect the wayy Iam . butt that never stopped me I took Diet pills everyday , Hardly ate and worked out alot . But when He moved away , I stopped and its toally driving me nuts . Hes coming Next Thursday and for some reason I think I need to lose weight again ...I really dont wanna start all this again and I no I cant lose that weight in 5 days butt somthing is like telling me 2 , Or he wont like me . Im soo confused right now I have no idea what to do .I dont know if I should tell him not to come . I really Loved this guy and I still Love him and I juss want him to like me still ....I dont know what to do !!!!!!
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He really does like you the way you are. Just keep telling yourself that. I know it is hard believe me I do it everyday with a wife and 4 kids I just have to keep reminding myself that they really do love me no matter what. Be strong I know you are. I'll send a prayer up for you adn pls take care.
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It sounds to me like this guy really likes you for the way you are. If possible take a deep breath and relax and enjoy the visit as much as possible and have fun. Hang in there... :)
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Sweetie,, you are really great just the way you are,, you self-image sucks though! What is it that makes you think that he would even want you to change? Did he like you to start? Remember that. Please be kinder to yourself, seems to me that you are doing this to yourself, he is trying to convince you that you are perfect in his eyes... Please appreciate this! He is a rare find,, a kinda jewel so to speak! Relish in that!
Hugs to you and relax and enjoy his visit! OK?
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As women, we have it so much harder. Perfection is expected from us, despite the fact that we have babies, our bodies are to a quick change, you name it.

I am by no means fat, but I used to be really thin. I gained up to a normal weight from muscle, and it took me a long time to come to terms with it. I love my body now.
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