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Well we just got back from his sisters wedding now all he can talk bout is when we get married this and that I really want to marry him, yes I am young but he changed so many things for me!!!
We have a son on the way.
He wants to have a small wedding cause he dn't wanna pay for heaps of people. But he has a small family I have a big family and I want a big wedding in every way!!! I want to go all out there and I want to have ALL of the people who mean something to me!!
I don't know when he wants to do this.
also I am scared that his mum is going to ruin our relationship. He is a mummys boy and I can't stand her. He knows this as I don't want to keep anything from him!
I am the kind of person who hates to be told I am wrong and I like to learn the hard way not by just being told. She is telling me that I am wrong about things to do with my son. I know what I am doing I was the father figure for my little siter that as only two years ago!!!
I have told Michael that I am going to blow one day of she keeps doing this!!
I will give you an example of some of the things she does
Washing- I am expected to clean the house but she doesn't want me to use her washing machine because I might break it yet she will use our washing powder to save hers. and she ruins my clothes so I won't let her do my washing
MY SON: She is telling me that I don't need to buy any more clothes when you can see clearly that what we have will not do!!
when me and Michael make plans she doesn't lik she will wait til i'mnot around and talk him into doing other thing!!
GRR
Am I being unfair???
We have a son on the way.
He wants to have a small wedding cause he dn't wanna pay for heaps of people. But he has a small family I have a big family and I want a big wedding in every way!!! I want to go all out there and I want to have ALL of the people who mean something to me!!
I don't know when he wants to do this.
also I am scared that his mum is going to ruin our relationship. He is a mummys boy and I can't stand her. He knows this as I don't want to keep anything from him!
I am the kind of person who hates to be told I am wrong and I like to learn the hard way not by just being told. She is telling me that I am wrong about things to do with my son. I know what I am doing I was the father figure for my little siter that as only two years ago!!!
I have told Michael that I am going to blow one day of she keeps doing this!!
I will give you an example of some of the things she does
Washing- I am expected to clean the house but she doesn't want me to use her washing machine because I might break it yet she will use our washing powder to save hers. and she ruins my clothes so I won't let her do my washing
MY SON: She is telling me that I don't need to buy any more clothes when you can see clearly that what we have will not do!!
when me and Michael make plans she doesn't lik she will wait til i'mnot around and talk him into doing other thing!!
GRR
Am I being unfair???
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Are you guys living with his mother? If so,, then please respect the fact that she is obviously caring enough to take care of you and she has been a mother before, so therefore kinda knows what she is talking about. One of the reasons you would not want to buy that many infant clothes is the babies grow so fast that they never seem to get to wear everything they get... Also, if you have a baby shower, you are not leaving much for your friends and family to buy for you... see what I am saying.
She also probably waits and talks with him, cause he is after-all her son... A parent feels more comfortable talking with their own child, instead of talking with someone else's child.
As far as your wedding goes,, is your family willing to pay for any of the wedding? If so, then I do not see any problem with inviting them all, if not, then I would respect the people that are paying and let it go at that!
My son and daughter-in-law were married two years ago and her parent's did not like the idea of them getting married, so I was the one to pay for the wedding. I was lucky!!! My daughter-in-law respected that fact and we did things that I could actually afford, being a single mother and having to foot the whole bill... So,,, God bless my new daughter!!!
Anyway, I hope this helps your situation a little!
Love to you little mama!
The things she was talking him out of buying were things we need like a cot etc. She told him to go and buy things for himself not the baby I don't think that is fair. Especially when he did go and buy him some things I was around when he got them and she complained at him saying that he needed to buy things for the baby!!!!
It would be me and Michael that pay for our wedding it is us that want to get married it is our day so we should pay for it.
Regarding Michaels mum, it is not that she talks to him when I am not around it is the fact that she say's one thing to him when I am around and the opposite when I am around.
Have your dream wedding.As you fret over wine,apps,napkins,gowns ect..Know this. 10 years later you will wish you had taken 25 less pics of the wedding party and talked to your aunt(or whoever) more. This event is about love and people.
As for mom You have to grin and bear it as long as you are living together.she is not going to change.
Have a great wedding. your money is more wisely spent starting your new life(not with his Mom 24/7 hopefully)
If the kid needs clothes get them(I know you would anyway) Good luck i hope your wedding is great and you marrige even better. JJ
Have your dream wedding.As you fret over wine,apps,napkins,gowns ect..Know this. 10 years later you will wish you had taken 25 less pics of the wedding party and talked to your aunt(or whoever) more. This event is about love and people.
As for mom You have to grin and bear it as long as you are living together.she is not going to change.
Have a great wedding. your money is more wisely spent starting your new life(not with his Mom 24/7 hopefully)
If the kid needs clothes get them(I know you would anyway) Good luck i hope your wedding is great and you marrige even better. JJ
I am the kind of person who always has to do what I want to how I want it. And the way I see it, if I had a great time, no regrets!!
I think though that I will be living with my mother in law 24/7 until she dies!! Unless we decide to go back to school which will be 6hours away from here!!! But even then he wants her to come with us. She has heart problems, BUT she has a sister only a phone call away and people that check on her all the time. Also he left her when he went to uni the first time so why not when we have our family???
And your right I will go and buy some clothes because I think we need them!
It's just who I am!!