My partner and I have been together for 2 and a half years, most of it extremely loving until recently they started off so kind, considerate. We are usually very happy. They have had Graves since they were 19. They are 35 they have not had RAI. Recently, the last four months have been a rollercoaster , two very nasty blowups . As we live in South Texas they are always hot, always complaining. Extremely Mad, furious at everyone but usually not me. They been getting bad headaches have been sexually distant, they wake up angy, and hot, weak, and very self absorbed.
I ask is something wrong. They used to speak honestly about the Graves now they are in another world. The other day I called them and we talked like we usually do for about an hour then about dinner next thing I knew they told me they dont feel like talking to me anymore said who cares about dinner, went into a fit started conflating coversations, overtalking me getting real nasty I wasnt having that but i was still supportive. I told them to drop the attitude and be nicer. They hung up the phone and will not speak to me unless its through texts. I told them we need to talk cause this is a problem. They told me to drop the incident they have moved on from it, why am I dwelling. How is this possible when your in the wrong? They have gone into a graves rage once before and apologized afterwards they didnt even remember what they said, they usually never do, but this is crazy... They are cold, distant, and take no accountability... I wanted to know if its over, if i should move on. In the past they blamed everyone and graves for thier failures in relationship but im starting to think they are Bi-Polar too. Its just so much . They wanted, may still want to spend their life with me then suddenly fly into rages over nothing, and cannot understand why Im angry, or hurt. They are completely off their rocker, their levels are off. In the past, hell even two weeks ago they have got into arguments with freinds, siblings, coworkers....everyone except me. They got so worked up ober the phone company charging them 80 cents, they started flying off the deep end. Im looking at them their getting red, pacing, pouting, Im getting scared. Their once beautiful green eyes just look glazen, glassed. I wish i could each them. They told me we will talk when they get ready and their hormones are normal, I cant live like that. What do you when your man who wanted to build their life with you, touched you so affectionately would do anything for you, now cant even talk to you.
I had a relative pass they were like oh ok, and had the audacity to dismiss it then tell me we will talk when the time is right. What do we have to talk about when you think you can do this on your terms. On what planet can you be in a reltionship and this be ok. I wanted to know where we stand. Maybe Im reading it wrong. I want to leave, they text me that Im being selfish and petty, or nothing at all. We never used to text. They could talk to me for hours about nohthing. An arguement over dinner, Im lost. Before me they once told me that they went into a fit became depressed and just ceased contact with everyone. Wanted to end it all. Throughout the last months they tell me how Graves has ruined every relationship everything. They say they will never be normal and love hard but i cant tell. They cry about it laugh about it then cry again. They can cry over a movie but I tell you a relative passed and your like eh whatver. They told me they thought they went into a storm at work, they went off on everyone. In the past my touch, voice would calm them and they seemed the pretty healthy. They loved me in ways that were unknown. This has made me so sad, and I dont know if I can forgive them. I told them I just dont know. Now Im just trying to be friend even if we are not lovers because im concerned. If we do make it work they need those levels adjusted rapidly. Can anyone relate.