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WoW - after 15yrs, I'm doing it all over again

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I'm hear to learn to share and seek strength. I gained custody of my 15 month old paternal granddaughter past 7/07 and in the process of adopting. My own youngest child is 15, with the oldest being 24(the baby's father)tow in between ages 19, 23. This is rough and I foresee issues down the line with my son as well. How do we protect these children and still maintain healthy relationships with our own children, the birth parents? I'm just starting out and I am beyond tired, never mind dealing with the system from one State to the next. Anyways, hope to learn and share. Malika
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Good luck ..if you ever need someone to talk to I, here for you.I'll keep you in my prayers.
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We all know what you're going through. We have all been there. This is a great place for advice and support. I wish you lots of luck in keeping a good relationship with the parents however; the realationship with the children is what matters most. This website has helped me beyond belief. I try to visit at least once a day if not more. Please feel free to talk to me anytime. Bless you for what you're doing for your grandchild.
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With me my son is Ri's daddy, he is behind us all the way. He realized a long time ago he and Ri's mom neither one need to be raising her. Both are recovering meth addicts and as we all know that recovering doesn't mean a whole lot when it comes to meth addiction.
The mother of Ri is just an very evil, hateful vendicative person.
My relationship with Ri is my main concern. If the parents of your grand child truely love her, they need to except what you are doing. When something comes down to trying to decide what to do stop and ask yourself..."what is in the best intestet of your grand daughter."
Kind of like WWJD. But WWBBIOGD. (I know...I am so weird)
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You say after 15 years you are doing it again. With me after 30 years I am doing it again.
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I know what you mean Jade. It's been 25 years since I did this.
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This will be a major heart break for you, what you end up doing if walking away from the child you love and raised to save his child from him. Look in your grandson's face and you will know what is the right thing to do. May God bless you.
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I so agree with the last reply. The little one has to come first. If the adult child doesn't understand, it's just to bad.
Our hope is to make the little ones a much better person then their parents were.
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what i did was sit down with my daughter and told her what i expected from her now. that i was now in charge of my granddaughter. if there was any problems we could talk to each other away from the child to resolve the issue. it has seemed to work for us pretty well. hugs and good luck
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Good luck hopefully it is still possible for you. I'm here if you need to chat,keeping in my thoughts and prayers
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