
Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.

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I feel like I'm losing my mind. My grandaughter has been acting really badly lately, I have tried everything to try to get her to behave,with no change, Her dad has shown interest in taking over care of her and wants to have a chance to raise his daughter. I'm am so tired of dealing with all her behavior and I'm frustrated,I wonder what is the best decision, keep her with me where she's happy, safe and cared for or let her go now with her dad who is a complete stranger?By letting her go now I feel like I'm giving up on her, but am I really doing the right thing by keeping her with me or letting her experiece life with a father step mom and sister in another state? I HATE having to make life changing decisiions but I now have no choice please help with your advice
Thanks much,
Melody
Thanks much,
Melody
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Has your son and his wife spent time with her lately?
Does she know what might be taking place?
At a sweet time as her what is going on in her head. ASk her why she is acting out so much. Is this normal for her or something getting worse then the norm?
I know how frustrating it can get.That over whelming feeling, like why am I putting myself through this...I want MY life back...etc...........
Maybe she is just needing some attion...... extra.
Get her to open up, that may be the only answer you need.
There have been many times when we've asked ourselves if he'd really be any worse off living with his mother now, especially now that #1, she's supposedly off the drugs, and #2, she knows she's being held accountable for him. But, it's our frustration talking, we KNOW he's better off here right now, we know we can't trust his mom yet. We just get so frustrated & tired & worn out. It feels like you never get a break, especially if the parents don't have visitation set up, or they're not allowed unsupervised visitation.
It hit me recently, when I was really struggling with him & felt like I was on the verge of a meltdown, THIS is why foster parents are given a "vacation" every year. I think that's the case, fosters are set up so that the parents can have some alone time at least once a year. We don't have that luxury, so it just builds up. When they're going through a difficult stage, it's just that much worse.
Anyways, that wasn't real helpful for you, I'm sure. I'd do like the others suggested, think about it, maybe increase visitation & have some family counselling perhaps. Good luck, I know it's not easy!!