Well I thought I had survived it all, my daughter's brain tumor and death, my husband's stroke at 49 and living 22 years with his disabilities, caring for my mom with Alzheimer's, losing my son because he thinks I'm not a "happy person" and his wife doesn't want to be around us. I have raised from grandson from birth weight of 2lbs, 9oz to now 18 years old. After our daughter's death, he lived one year with bio dad and step mom and suffered so much emotional abuse, we have been dealing with issues since he was 5. Well, the last six years have been difficult as they are with many teens, cutting classes, getting in trouble with law, (nothing big) and increased lack of respect. We've been seeing counselor and gs says he loves us and doesn't mean to disrepect us, but his actions are something else. Well, this weekend took the cake. On Saturday afternoon, said he was going out and Dad and I had to "deal with it". Promised to be home by 8pm because he has a driver's ed project to complete. Well, it's Monday morning, almost 10am, and he has not shown up. Got a text msg Sunday morning that he was drunk, his gf is pregnant and his life is in a shambles and he doesn't know what to do. Told him to come home and we'll talk. Offered to pick him up. Got a few more text messages throughout the day that he was find and w/be home. Also told us she is 2 months preg and had an ultrasound that showed it was a boy. Nothing since. My daughter says he's probably scared to come home because of everything going on. He was supposed to bring home paychecks Saturday night but we all question if he has really been working or just using it as an excuse to get out and ask for money, supposedly to get train ticket to get to work and he will "pay me back". I feel like I have been such a fool. I'm devastated and trying to hold on. I know your answers will be that I should not have given him money, that I s/have been more strict, but I honestly felt I had a good relationship and trusted him. My daughter suggested the gf might be lying because he was trying to break up with her. She also told me ultrasound can't tell sex of child at two months. We have a family counseling meeting later this morning and I will go even though he is not here. I mean, we gave up everything to get him out of an abusive situation and now here we are, hurt and abandoned....I'm glad I have this place to vent because I don't see any answers.
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