I am so torn. I keep thinking my daughter will get clean and resume her role as mother to her 2 children that I am raising, but something tells me it won't happen. I have spent a fortune trying to help her and raising her children for the last 2 years. She lived with us for about 11 months, but left right after christmas. We went to court in November to get her unsupervised visits. I gave the court my approval, even though I knew she was still using Suboxone (drug used to get people off of opiates). We were paying for counseling at the time and felt that it was making progress. We were scheduled to return to court 1/22. After Christmas we tried to get her to realize that working a job that required nights and weekends was not the type she needed if she were to regain custody of her children. She disagreed and moved out. After she moved out I found evidence of heavier drug use. I notified the attorney and I revoked her unsupervised visitation. She complained loudly, but what I found along with the fact that she moved back with her druggie husband who has received no treatment,made me stick to my guns. We have spoken with her since and told her the only thing we will accept from her at this point, is for her to go to inpatient treatment. She says she will and has made a few phone calls, but today she showed up to play with kids in the snow and says she is scared. Wanted to know about court on Thursday. I told her I was going and since she has not made all the arrangements for inpatient treatment, I would lay all the cards on the table at court. She exploded, and as usual we discussed which turned into arguing. I told her I will raise her children, but I don't want to have anything to do with her or her husband. It irks me so to know that they are living my life while I am taking all the responsibility for their children. She thinks that is hurting the children, but I will not accept that guilt. What they are doing is hurting the children more than anything I could do. Neither one has paid child support. Dad nothing in last year and the only thing she really paid was tax return which went straight to the state. Should I take their rights away? Can I take their rights away? Or do I have to live in constant turmoil while trying to raise 2 kids in my "golden years"?
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