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How do you all feel about spanking? A short history. I have three children in their 40's that I spanked because that is just what we did back then. I have a 25yr old daughter that I raised by myself that I never spanked and she is a good, responsible, hardworking adult. (So are the other three.) Now I have twin two year old boys that I swore I would never spank but that lasted about two weeks. I have tried the time out chair - total chaos. The one in the chair is screaming and the one that isn't being punished is screaming because his brother is screaming. I have tried sending them to their room with a stern talking to but as soon as I leave the room they just follow me out crying. The first time I spanked I was change one when the other one walked in with a steak knife he had gotten out of the dishwasher. I thought the veins in my neck were going to pop I screamed so hard. The little devil just laughed and started running with the steak knife. I lost it and swatted him on the butt as soon as I could let go of the other one. Now it seems that I am daily swatting a butt or flicking a hand. I really don't want to punish - - I want to train. But with two of them going in two different directions I just seem to be smacking diapers more than I want. HELP!!!!!
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I very rarely have spanked Ri. When she was younger every once in a while a swat on the hand. Like the second time I had to swat her on the hand for messing with something I had just told her to leave alone she was like 2 at the time. Anyway she looked at me and said so proudly.."THAT WASN"T THE HAND I DID IT WITH!" I said oh let me see the hand you did it with and she put it out there and I quickly swatted it. The look on her face was priceless! I walked away and shut the bathroom door and had a good laugh. Anyway, if you swat to much it isn't going to be a big deal from one time to another. Save the swats for the big things. Ri gets maybe one swat a year. I mainly have always used that as a last thing because of the beating her mom gave her. I have never hurt her doing it, I use my hand and hit her bottom, one swat it's done.
Maybe try while the one is in time out crying tell the other what a bad boy he's been and how proud you are of him being a good boy.
I can't even.........wow twins, you are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo brave!
Sunday evening we had went out for dinner. I don't eat much at one setting so I brought it home. Ri was laying at the end of sofa and I had heated my left overs up about 10 minutes before that and she kept wanting this and wanting that and it was cold again. BUt thought I would eat it anyway. I told her to hush and be still it was time for her to go to sleep. I sat down one more time with my food on my lap as she ask what time is it and before I could even open my mouth to say what time it was she kicked her foot and yeap ya got it my food and dip went flying in the air, After that she didn't even move. MY voice had went to THAT voice!
I'm so glad to read that you are taking better of yourself. I think that is the key to surviving raising our grandchildren.