We have 2 grandaughters, 13 & 11 yrs. Our son & his wife were just kids when the girls were born so we cared for them much more than their parents did. When they divorced a few years after the girls were born, the mother got custody. She & her boyfriends abused the girls in many ways and it took us several years and all the money we could come up with for lawyers to finally get the girls back in our son's care. (Their mother was then killed in a car wreck.) Needless to say, my husband and I did everything to help the girls work through alot of fears & emotional scars. Meanwhile he had remarried a woman with 2 children. She was a very bad stepmother to our grandaughters (long story). After 6 yrs. with her, they divorced. He immediately moved himself & his daughters in with another woman with 2 children, making promises to them that things would be different. Now his girlfriend is pregnant and he ignores his 2 daughters. They are so unhappy and angry. They stay with us as much as possible. We buy all their clothes, pay for any activities they have and some months, pay their rent so they won't go homeless. About 5-6 weeks ago, they asked us if they could come live with us (they have their own rooms & clothes at our house). They hate their home lives and the way they are treated. It breaks our hearts because legally there's nothing we can do. Because we keep our mouths shut, we have a good relationship with our son. That's been the only way we can be sure we get to see our grandaughters as much as we do. Because of his pride, I'm sure he won't let them live with us. Plus, he gets government checks for them since their mother died. If he finds out they asked to live with us, we are afraid he will get mad and keep them away from us or take his anger out on them (he's not abusive). Things are getting out of hand almost daily and we don't know what to do. I have some health problems and my husband works out of town through the week. But I love my grandaughters more than life and I know sacrifices have to be made (we've made so many already). I just don't want to do the wrong thing. Sorry for the long post; I tried to be brief. I could just really use some advice. Thanks and God bless all of you for what you do for your own grandchildren.
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