Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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My baby sister stayed 3 nights with me this week and she just about drove me and my husband crazy.She has a 16 month old baby girl and a 4 month old baby boy.She is only 18 herself.She gets really upset with the babies,even the 4 month old.She yells and curses at them both and me and my husband both just about went off on her for hitting the little girl.She didn't just spank her,the way she did it I concider abuse.The DCS is already investigating her because her house is always nasty,the kids are never clean and always have dirty diapers on.I can't bare to see them put into foster care and I'm a certified foster parent but I already have alot on my plate.Of course if they are taken I will do what I can for them as I am the only one in the family who could.what I would rather do is help her to do better with them but if you say anything to her she gets very upset.....I fear for these children but I don't want to see them taken away from the family.I love all my 'grandbabies'as all my neices and nephews call me 'mammaw'as I help raise their parents.ifeel like they are more my grandbabies than anything.please help me find a way to help tehm and her.
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awww so sorry you are going through such agony...but you can't help your sister to be a better mother...she has to want that for herself...and at 18 they don't know much...all you can do is give her advice on the best and easiest way to handle her babies...remember she is still a teenager...if you yell and scream she won't listen...sit her down and have a heart to heart with her...she just might listen. Good luck!
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I do think you can help your sister be a better mom. Maybe you could have a therapist "shadow" her for a day or two. What they do is spend time with the mom and children and then at the end of the day offer suggetions on how the mother could have handled things differently. Also, there are many organizations that help single moms perhaps one of the organizations in your area has a support group and parenting classes. This would give your sister a chance to talk to other young mothers and the learn the skills necessary to deal with young children.
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Reading Thomi's reply reminded me....most hospitals offer free parenting courses, and can probably put her in touch with local support groups. I know we're trying to get our daughter to take the parenting class, she just hasn't had transportation or the time yet. I know, excuses. I would call the hospitals & look in the newspapers, they often advertise support groups & classes.
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I am so sorry to hear that you are going threw all this. Unforntually, she is the one to decided to get help to be a better mom. We tried for 10 long years to get my daughter to see the light, and she never did. Our biggest regreat was not giving up a long time ago. She has caused so much pain to both my husband and I and also her kids. Don't wait too long to do something...save the kids at all costs!
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