Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
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I have legal guardianship of my 3 year old granddaughter. My daughter lives with my ex-husband. He is very much an enabler in relation to our daughter's drug addictions. (heroin and pain killers) She has supposedly been clean for 90 plus days. (I believe she has slipped on occasion) She does not have a job. She supposedly goes to AA meetings comes home and surfs the net or sleeps. She is in one of her angry phases with me. She has just realized what guardianship means and that she has little say regarding her child at this time. She has threaten to take me back to court to get the baby. She believes she can continue to live with her dad with the baby. Also, I have reason to believe the baby's father is back in my daughter's life. This is the one person that she should avoid!!! She has gone through rebab a couple of times. All believe she needs to stay away from him if she wants to be sober. He also, is a heroin addict. He has been in rehab numerous times but does not stay clean for very long. I spoke with my ex and he says he can't have a child in his house at this phase in his life. But again, it would be nice to have both of them around he has told me. (bare in mind he has NO family, nobody). My grandaughter has her own room. My present husband is a stay at home "mom". This child is very much the center of our household. I would love to see my daughter get sobriety of some length under her belt. A job and her own place in hopes of her getting her child back. I think it is too early for her to be a mother. Her focus now is getting the baby back. Not being sober.
My question: Should I be worried?
My question: Should I be worried?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If she does not have a job and has not proven herself and is hanging with a guy that is bad she would be wasting her time, your time etc.... You may want to explain to your x hubby that he knows she is not ready and that if the child did end up back with her that he would end up taking are of the baby and he would be the one tied down. Not her!
Also remember if he or she has any crimnal back ground go to the court house and get copies of it all. Always be prepared just in cse she decides to actually do it.
That is what is so bad, drag us through the mud and then the courts allow us to be abused by them........
just to let you know, when my daughter is doing drugs or drinking she calls and tells me how she is getting shelby back, and her other 3 children. so dont worry. she will have to do lots before she can get her back,,hugs and good luck Tarri
I have always heard that this is what they dobut it sure has not been in our case and of course she has not done anything other then her mom forcing her into rehab,but she got kicked out of it.