DH and I have legal guardianship of our 9-yo gs who lost his mother last October. He misses her so much. We try to comfort him the best we can and just let him "miss her". I checked on him an hour after he went to bed last night, and he was sitting on his bed looking at pictures of her and pictures of him as a baby/toddler. Tears were quietly streaming down his little cheeks. I sat with him and looked at the pictures with him. I finally laid down with him and held him tight, all the while tears streaming down my face. Finally, our cat jumped up in bed by him and he started petting her. She calmed him right down and he went to sleep. It's so hard for me to hold back the tears when he's crying - his mommy was my baby girl. But, I have learned that it's ok for me to cry with him. He said "She was my mommy and your baby girl". That just pulls the heart strings. She was only his mommy for 8 years and my baby for 36 years. The 1-year anniversary is coming up, but I'm not going to bring it to his attention unless he figures it out for himself. I don't even know if he remembers the date. I'm going to a friend's house just so I won't be alone all day.
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