
Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.

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Ok I know all of us grandparents who are raising their children are doing so for all kinds of reasons. My story begins when my daughters runs off and gets married to a man she doesn't know but he turned out to be a ok man, she leaves her oldest child here with the father and takes the daughter and tells all that that is not her daughter, eventually all find out that this is her daughter. (they forgive her) everything is okay she has another child in meantime with her husband.
Myself and husband visit her and think that maybe she's going to be alright.HA, she leaves her husband, her 2 year old son 4 year old daughter and 6 year old son. The husband only wants his child so the two older children are left over someones house with whose knows who. My husband flys out to pick them up and we have had them since. We know longer know where the youngest is who is now 7 years old. She claims she sees him but I know this is not true. She doesn't even call her children that I have now I know she has some sort of problem either drugs or mental issues and I understand that she can't raise them, but I feel angry that she has ruin her childrens lives, AND also Me and her fathers. She doesn't even call her children or us for that matter. Everynow and then she will text via cellphone. She calls no one here not her grandparents or brother. She cares for no one in her past. This also hurts me, I don't know what to do. I'm depressed and I can hardly give the children what they need. I raised my children, they had parties extra activities and friends over I just can't do the extra stuff anymore. I feel bad for my grandchildren and missed the other child that i have no clue of his wherebouts. I have even asked my daughter to please just come home and help a week or two. Am I wrong for this request? Her excuse is that she is getting herself together, that has been 5 yeear. She I continue to text her and ask or just leave her alone and let her live her life. Did I mention that I am under Dr's care for Depression, Diabetes,recent Gastric by-pass
Myself and husband visit her and think that maybe she's going to be alright.HA, she leaves her husband, her 2 year old son 4 year old daughter and 6 year old son. The husband only wants his child so the two older children are left over someones house with whose knows who. My husband flys out to pick them up and we have had them since. We know longer know where the youngest is who is now 7 years old. She claims she sees him but I know this is not true. She doesn't even call her children that I have now I know she has some sort of problem either drugs or mental issues and I understand that she can't raise them, but I feel angry that she has ruin her childrens lives, AND also Me and her fathers. She doesn't even call her children or us for that matter. Everynow and then she will text via cellphone. She calls no one here not her grandparents or brother. She cares for no one in her past. This also hurts me, I don't know what to do. I'm depressed and I can hardly give the children what they need. I raised my children, they had parties extra activities and friends over I just can't do the extra stuff anymore. I feel bad for my grandchildren and missed the other child that i have no clue of his wherebouts. I have even asked my daughter to please just come home and help a week or two. Am I wrong for this request? Her excuse is that she is getting herself together, that has been 5 yeear. She I continue to text her and ask or just leave her alone and let her live her life. Did I mention that I am under Dr's care for Depression, Diabetes,recent Gastric by-pass
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