I'm ashamed to admit this, as everyone here seems so upbeat despite problems worse than mine, but I an soooo desperately unhappy raising my 2 grandaughters, age 4 and 7. My husband really does the bulk of it, but he can't do it all. I love them dearly, but I feel robbed of the years I have left. I truly loved being a parent, and threw myself into it heart and soul, only to raise a son who has saddled me with this burden. I feel like, what was all that effort for, to end up with an irresponsible loser? I also have a great 22 year old daughter, so maybe it isnt all my fault. All I can think of is that I'm sacrificing my golden years for probably another kick in the head. I am in counseling, but the answer seems to be,"either put up or get out". I did leave for about three months, but guilt brought me back. Has anyone else been in this mindset, and how do you get out of it? All my hopes and dreams seem like they will never happen. I dont ask for much-peace and quiet after a long day at work, and a neat, orderly home, which just isnt going to happen. I am so unhappy.....
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