Grandparents Raising Children Support Group
This community is dedicated to grandparents who are the primary caregivers of their grandchildren. In cases where the parents are not willing or able to provide adequate care for their children, grandparents may take on the role of primary caregivers. Join the support group to find support, share your experience, and get advice from other members.
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I am new to this community. I am 42. Mother of 3 daughters ages 24, 20, and 13. Oldest daughter has a son who I have raised since he was 4 months old due to her drug addiction and father's drug addiction. Grandson's parents never married and are not together now for 3 years. Daughter is sober now for 2 years but just gets son for fun and game times as does his father. I deal with the hard stuff. He is having behavior issues at school and has new diagnosis of ADHD. I don't want to put him on meds yet so we are having a pretty hard time with the school. He is good at home but not at school. Hopefully things will be looking up for us soon. I am hoping to be able to turn here for support. Thanks.
I am new to this community. I am 42. Mother of 3 daughters ages 24, 20, and 13. Oldest daughter has a son who I have raised since he was 4 months old due to her drug addiction and father's drug addiction. Grandson's parents never married and are not together now for 3 years. Daughter is sober now for 2 years but just gets son for fun and game times as does his father. I deal with the hard stuff. He is having behavior issues at school and has new diagnosis of ADHD. I don't want to put him on meds yet so we are having a pretty hard time with the school. He is good at home but not at school. Hopefully things will be looking up for us soon. I am hoping to be able to turn here for support. Thanks.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
My youngest daugher (his mother) has ADHD and I knew before he was a year old that my grandson did, too. My daughter was 14 years old before she was finally diagnosed and never got the help she needed. But, since my grandson was younger, we decided to do therapy, and it was a miracle. He is 14 years old now, he never has nor will he ever need meds. Most people probably would never know he has ADHD. I can still see very small things, but nothing that most others would notice. He has a 3.5 GPA in the most challenging school in our area, is outstanding in sports, and very social - all the kids in his school love and look up to him. So, if you can get therapy for your grandson, it would be worth a try.
The therapists worked with him doing lots of motor things, we used brushing, and some therapy things we did at home. Once he was about 5 years old, they started him in the 'How Does Your Engine Run' program. The therapists work to find what revs the kids up and what calms them down and they inform the parents and teachers of what works so they can direct the child. The therapist also works on making the child aware of how they feel by asking them frequently 'How is your engine running?. That way they see the connection of their 'engine' running too slow with their becomming hyper in an attempt to speed it up, and they give them (and the parents and teachers) some appropriate alternatives that work to calm the child. Once the child is 8 years old, then the responsibility for being aware of how their 'engine' is running and what to do about it is turned over to the child. When the child knows that their 'engine is too slow' they know how to do things that help, such as 'trying to push down the wall' (gross motor things help a lot). It really worked for us and I would highly recommend it for any child with ADHD.
Have a look when you have a few moments. You might find some answers to your questions. Take Care. God Bless.