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The Other Mother

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colored-cheerios
My partner and her "ex" parented her son for 5 years. He knows her as his "other mother". It has been really difficult to be supportive of the other mother both in his life and in my partner's life. He feels very torn and is always asking me if I am his "new mom"... I say "She (other mother) will always be your mom. This will never change no matter where you live." This situation has caused a huge issue in our relationship, not his relationship with "her" but with the comfort level between my partner and her.

The three of them have been living together. My partner and her "ex" as friends/roommates. But now that we have decided to move in together, she feels that my partner and I are "breaking up her family" .. this is very hurtful to all of us involved. I am not sure what is going to happen. This is a very hard situation.
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maybe you three adults could gt together and talk about it somewhere nutural??? Set up some guidelines that will make everybody more comfortable, it probably will be a very difficult conversation but it might me worth a try. If it went well then you could get your stepson(?) involved and maybe build somesort of a friendship between you all??? Don't know just suggestions hope its helpful.
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