i have just ended a relationship of almost 9 years. i was convienced that we had grown apart and that we were just together for convience. i do feel that our relationship had become one of "roommate like conditions" so i ended it just like that. this was how it was fo these last two years. i also cheated on him in the last couple of months.i can now admit and face this......... I MUST TELL YOU, IT HAS KILLED THE BEST PART OF ME INSIDE SINCE, not to mention how much i have turned my ex's life upside down. i have stripped every shread of security, trust and stability from his life. i have left him in a position where he had to learn to be without certain things and out on his own for the first time in his life. this isn't a bad thing, it's just that a little warning would have been nice on my behalf. i know this now. i am saying this because if you are having problems or want to break up,...or think that you can save your relationahip, try to do just that, don't give up, ubless there may be harm to you. don't wake up wondering "IF". i have seen a man who was so strong, so independent and so confident fall to his knees in disbelief and hurt. i will always live with this for the rest of my life and pray that it never happens to me. i did not do this to hurt him, i did it to find my own way in this world. i know i could of done things differently. for this....i am truly sorry my dear friend. i hope that this helps you to understand more than it may give me peace and acceptance for what i have done to you and for what i may face in the end.
hope this helps anyone who is thinking of breaking up.............
i do love the person i am with very much, but i had no right distroying someone else in the process.
take care friends, just wanted to admit i was stupid to think that it is this easy to leave someone who loved you....without a fight
R-