Gay & Lesbian Teens Support Group
This community is dedicated to teens that identify as Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual or Transgender or are questioning their sexual orientation. It's a supportive community where LGBT & questioning teens can give or get advice from their peers or just hang out. Please do not join this community unless you meet the description above. Thanks!
im gay and i want 2 have kids n love girls but i cant should i come out or try and have kids like i need ur help plz
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Gays CAN adopt. Not EVERY state in the USA will let a gay COUPLE adopt,but gay singles can adopt. Fortuneately, California,Massachusetts,Vermont,New York, and a few other states will let you adopt with your partner. Massachusetts and some places in California and New York are the only states that will allow gay marriages,though. Hopefully,in the future,the USA will become more open-minded about love and marriage.
But,back to your question: Should I come out?
That HIGHLY depends. You're only 15,and might not be able to take it as easily if people start to pick on you. Does your school have a counseler/psychologist? If so,I recommend talking to him/her about your issues. If s/he is homophobic,then find a counselor/psychologist that IS.
You NEED a support group..especially when you decided to come out and start fully being yourself..which is NOT easy,but most definately rewarding and the best in the long run.
If you need anything feel free to message me.
All the best,
Michelle
dont hide your feelings away .
its your life so live it out and proud ...
you only get one chance
i had tis precise problem wen i was jus a touch older than u... hmm me thinks i should give you me full comin out story jus for the hell of it and i cnt sleep! LOL
rite well i came out wen i was 17 in my first yr of 6th from college to my family ev1 els already knew, well basically earlier tha day i had a bit of a fallin out with one of my proper bezzers paul and i was a bit low so as usual for a weds after work i knocked for me nxt door neighbour boring stacey. went round the park had a fag and we got to talkin bout life in general and the subject of kids came up and i really wanna have kids that for a long time in my life was my main priority in life and then we talked of the practicalities of it all and basically we found it wernt too feasible as it were so i got home in a reall shitty mood and went to me room and ended up cryin then went down stairs saying i think im goin insane... yes i know
so then basically me mam coaxed it out of me tha im gay then called up paul told him wot happened we went to the pub for a bit as couldnt handle being at home didnt gt back till like 2 as was soo... i dnt know jus couldnt go home then got home and me and mum talked bout it a bit but neway long story short my family is cool with it me and paul are closer for it and plus he said i can have his as he put it "first demon spawn!" LOL
tha really hasnt much to do with ur situation bt bcos i wanted kids really badly it drove me over the edge a little. well ur gay obviously and the prospect of kids is quite slim cos lets be honest you know wot i mean like u dnt want your kid to be ne diff and if they have two dads well i doubt it ll make em popular on the play ground...
m nt being clear...
look i know wot u r goin thru precisely, jus dont try to get too much into the future thas all far away you know live in the now...
but also if you want kids focus on your studies cos the richer and more upper middle class the area ur in the more chance they;ll be more accepting of your children ie stay away from minging estates... not to be rude or nothing LOL
so all in all you cnt change who you or hide who u r it will bite u in the ass if you do, and if you do play it str8 jus to have kids it really wouldnt be fair on ur wife to have a husband she loves that doesnt completly love her (as personally having children out of wedlock is just plain chavvy! am i rite!) LOL
i really doubt i made a point here...
all im saying is that iv been in your shoes litterally, you know u change and grow older and ur goals and prioties change like back then i wanted to be the epitome of the gay socialites and to the ultimate stepford wife with the perfect family...
but now i wanna settle down... eventually and have kids... eventually its no longetr my main goal (my target now is to own my own gay bar by 31!)
u know wot i mean?
i know this is a very taxing time and if u ever wanna talk bout it please feel free to hit me back
im sure ul get thru it and make the right choice!
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