my ex and i had discussed this, and i was going to propose, she found she didn't like the idea of doing so. the last name issue was the biggest for us, though it was odd that whichever name we took, we'd have the same initials for both of us (M.R. or M.D.). i know this is going to sound a bit cheesy, but we were going to go for whichever last name fit the best with our first names. on a more serious note, you could go for adopting whichever person's name would be easier to change (i.e., if one of you handles more of the financial aspects, has more influence, is older, more dominant, etc.)

i'm not sure if this provides any help, but i hope it does. =)

Which of your last names do you like best? Lol that's the name I'd go with.

Never really talked about it. With my ex though I proposed. It wasn't planned. And we never really thought about last names. Frankly at the time neither of us cared. As long as we were together. Although that's the past.

wow you guys are all making me sad.... your all like me and my ex... i want this girl to be in my life forever and it really scares me to think that she wont be in my future... AHHHHHHHH

I know eh?! My girlfriend and I are so young and the odds are against us, but I'm already getting sad and worried that she wont be a part of my life in the future!:-S

Hey guys! Cheer up! Love does last sometimes! It doesn't always fail. And...well...my last name is Marshall (go away stalkers!) and I really want to have a son that I can name Marshall. So I'm thinking I'd want to go with my partners name. Because Marshall James (that would be his middle name) Marshall isn't very cool.

Oh, and I would probably do the proposing. I'm sort of aggressive.

I dont know about the proposing thing probally whoever gets there first. As for the last name I would probally take hers I really hate mine.

Well for me and my Fiancee its already been decided. I "unofficially" proposed and I will be the one to officially propose. And as for the last name, she's taking mine, she's already decided that. I guess since we're butch and femme, I'm butch she's femme, or I'm the "guy" its seems only right that I propose and she takes my last name. I had no problem with it. Kinda fits since her dad has said that he'll treat me as if I'm a "guy" with his daughter. So I guess it not only depends on the couple but also who's what in the relationship and what everyone is comfortable with.