I have been in love with my best friend Elise for four years. We've been are-we-or-are-we-not-dating? for the last month or so. She has trouble expressing herself, often hiding behind masks of uninterest or superiority, or simply not responding. Her lack of empathy contrasted strongly against my own ways of expressing myself- straightforward, honest, open and trusting. Expressing how I feel, asked or not.

To me, her coolness was denying me of the emotion I NEEDED to recieve from her in order to have our relationship work, wether it was a friendly one or a romantic one.

We took some time off. I talked to my therapist, Laurie. I throught really, really long and hard about what I truly wanted in my life- I listened to my HEART, not my head. I didn't listen to "what could go wrong" or "look at all she'd done to hurt me in the past". I listened very closely to "what I really want" and my heart told me to stay friends with her.

It's only been about a week since I came to that decision, but CALMLY and HONESTLY telling Elise that I NEEDED her to work on feeling more trusting of me and being more open about her thoughts and feelings, and, in turn promising to be more patient with our relationship and stop expecting so much of her, our relation has been the best it's been in a while.

It's not exactly "getting over", but it's "getting through".