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I'm new here.. Not to Daily Strength but to this forum. I have a question for anyone willing to answer. I am with a guy currently. It will be 2 years together this Monday. It's just.. I have had feelings for girls for as long as I can remember. I want to know.. Am I gay or not..? My boyfriend said we can take some time off for a while for me to find out and he will be fine with it. He said he's more comfortable doing that then me saying I want to try things with another guy. I REALLY want to take him up on his offer but for one, I would feel like I was using the girl I was with and two.. I think I'm afraid to know. It's like, after all he and I have been through.. I'm not so sure I want to know but my heart aches to find out. He and I live together out of state and we go to college together. I'm not afraid to lose him.. Just afraid of the outcome of my actions.. Any advice is welcome.
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If you atracted to girls and guys chances are your bi. But if you want to make sure, Id sugest a one night stand kind of thing. That way shes useing you just as much as you are her.
kdl123
That sounds good.. Just a matter of finding a girl.. I can pick out REALLY attractive ones but they all seem straight. I can't pick out gay girls very well.. I guess that's why I stuck with guys. Any suggestions on how to find one without announcing it all over the school?
deleted_user
i'm with kdl123
deleted_user
Well you dont have to have a one night stand. Me and my girl share one guy and he is totally all good with it cause he really likes us both so... It doesnt... Well whatever.
kdl123
He isn't one like that. He will not touch another girl even if I ask him too. He was raised by women and has WAY too much respect to do something like that.. Like, he doesn't see me being with a girl for a while as cheating but if he even thinks another girl looks good, he feels horrible..
deleted_user
Well than you have the perfect guy hun!
kdl123
Which is why it sucks so badly!! I love him so much but he is starting to feel more like a room mate than a lover. Like, I don't like him touching on me. It feels weird and when I kiss him I feel like something is wrong. We also don't have sex anymore. I'm not into it. Like the only reason I do it is for him. (NO, he doesn't make me or ask me to I just like to do SOMETHING for him..) Even then, it's like.. once every 2 weeks. I don't understand. I used to love it. I'm so confused right now.. I want to be turned on by him again and enjoy the sex but.. It doesn't feel right.
deleted_user
Then you need to figure this out hun... I know it sounds bad but if you dont figure this out soon your flame for him as both a friend and lover will die.
kdl123
That's what I'm afraid of.. I love him so much but I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him if I'll always wonder if I'm a lesbian or not.. I want to be happy and I want him happy.... I'm Working on figuring it out. Thanks for all the comments.
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You welcome love!
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