i'd say if you want to come out then do it but dont change yourself. that would almost be like not coming out in a way because you would be someone you aren't.

yeahh shok is right. Come out if you want to, if you come out other people will usually start coming out too. I started coming out about 2 weeks ago, and now all of a sudden there are quite a few bi/gay people around me... So yeah. Come out, but be yourself.

Ah yes the whole "femme dilemma"
Dont change yourself for anyone. its hard now but try and put yourself out there...metaphorically and physically. Im kind of girly and maybe I have no place to say because I have trouble finding people too.

as i put it im a lezzbian *raises pinky* XD well you should never change who your are, im a femme and i love it, of course its hard to find some one cause well i dont appear to be a gay which i dont mind i came out a while ago and its been fun. being femme catches their attention cause most lezzbians are under the stereotype see i dont find the point in being a lezzbian and being butch [honestly no offense to anyone who's butch] like i mean if im a lezzbian its cause i wanna be with a chick not a boi right but w/e thats my opinion i cant say much im in love with a butch funny how things work out. as for coming out its all up to wether your ready or not dont rush into it

My mom said the same thing... LOL just come out i came out maybe 4 weeks ago and alot of people were like oh ok and all cool and one of my friends was like "I was kinda iffy when i was little now im just confused help me." It was cool... If people freak at least you have people here to support you so GO AHEAD!!!!!!!!

if u want 2 cum out cu mout but neva change yourself !!! especially if u are happy wit who u r

I guess it really depends on what kind of girls you like that determines how hard it is to find someone. I mean i'm definitely butch, and the type of girls I like are hard to find because it is hard to tell whether or not they are lesbian. So it's kind of like you just have to wait for your type to come along and make the first move. I'm still trying to figure out how to solve that problem myself...

definately do not change yourself! but if you feel comfortable coming out then you definately should! good luck!

omg!! i went through the same thing.. so i did tell everyone i'm a lesbian.. now if i say one thing about a guy everyone is like thaught u were a lesbian.. your just BISEXUAL.. o.O that pisses me off GRRR!! so i dont know really what is the right thing to do, its great comin out, but that other stuff pisses me off.. BUUUUT since i came out i have met loads of other lesbians and im now in a great relationship with a luvly girl..
hope anything i have said has helped. xx