The only advise I can give you is to educate yourself as much as you can about the diet and stages so you understand what she's going through.

Don't nag her about what she's putting into her mouth. Never ask "Can you have that?" She'll learn on her own what she can eat and what she can't.

If possible, switch some of your eating habits to support hers... not portion size, but maybe switch from whole milk to skim or reg. sugar to a substitute (as examples only) to show that your supporting her. It will help with your grocery bill too.

I agree totally with Cindy. Every time I go to try a new food my daughter will ask "are you allowed to have that?" It drives me nuts!!!

My Fianc got very excited when our Doctor told him that he too would be losing weight and eating healthier after my surgery. He is only about 20 lbs overweight, however, hes been wanting to shed the extra pounds and begin eating better. They were pretty much on their own for the first 6 weeks after my operation, because my choices were very limited. Now that I can pretty much eat anything I am preparing meals that are better for us (more veggies, whole grains, low-fat, etc.).

I am not aware of support groups for spouses who have had GBS. My Fianc attended every pre-op Doctors appointment so he could learn what the surgery entails and what to expect afterward. This website is very informative and there are so many members that are willing to answer what ever questions you may have.

Best of luck to you.

Can you elaborate a little on what things are giving you a hard time? We are certainly equiped to be your support group if that works for you.

Check with your wife's support group ... most will welcome spouses to the meetings.

keep coming here, post entries in your journal, basically become part of this group. It is friendly and thoughful and open to those who need it. I find that posting my thoughts and feelings helps get them out there and then others who care about you can read and give advice or encouragement. It is a big step just asking for the help. Stick with us! I encourage you to edcuate yourself as much as possible! To everyone else thanks! I forgot that I need to tell my husband not to ask me if I am SUPPOSED to have that. He has helped me in the past with my diets so he might get the impression that I give a d*mn what he thinks about what I am eating LOL.

if you find a support group for the spouse. Let me know I am loosing my mind

Interestingly enough I was talking about this possible issue with my husband today-- One of the ideas we are entertaining, is to seek counseling. Because of my past history, it would be a GOOD thing for me, in order to help process the emotions that I am sure will resurface after the surgery- and to have my husband with me there, perhaps in couples sessions, would not only help our bond because we would be working towards each other together- but would have that third party as well. I find that I do much better on a one-on-one basis, rather than in large support group settings.

perhaps a couple's meeting twice a month or once a week?

ObesityHelp.com has a few spouse support forums. I'm not sure how active they are but you could check them out.

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/family_and_friends_support/

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/spouses_of_wls_patients/

http://www.obesityhelp.com/forums/wls_spouses/

Hope this helps!!!