My mother is 86 and has some dementia (some days better than others. Our roles have definitely changed in the parent/child relationship. I am the caretaker of the world it seems. Don't know how to "broach" the subject of my having surgery with her. I know she will be thrilled with my weight loss -- but she seems to fixate on the last things she hears about everything. I had a SIL who was banded 20 years ago -- and has since had major problems (methods are much different/improved now than then) - but I KNOW my mom will only think about her problems -- and not the progress and the difference in surgery. In her eyes, WLS is all the same. I had thought of when surgery date gets closer, of just telling her I was going to have bladder (suspension) surgery (which she has had several times herself in the past) -- since the WLS should improve that area in the long run. Has anyone else had to handle similar situations? I know that not everyone is keen on WLS - and for many -- they think it is the EASY SOLUTION. How have you responded to others when they remark about your weight loss?
Posts You May Be Interested In
I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...