Well I just asked my hubby and he too makes some joking comments but he tells me it is all about what I want and how it is making me feel. Sorry

Take care Estelle

i also think part of this issue is we are safer if we are fatter, no one else is likely to be looking at us or wanting us. mine does say he misses, he likes me big but i am convinced its the reason i mentioned not by big butt... i have to admit the girls have shrunk significantly and he has a point in regards to them, oh well i am FINE with the new me.

i also think part of this issue is we are safer if we are fatter, no one else is likely to be looking at us or wanting us. mine does say he misses, he likes me big but i am convinced its the reason i mentioned not by big butt... i have to admit the girls have shrunk significantly and he has a point in regards to them, oh well i am FINE with the new me.

I havent had that happen yet, but i definately anticipate it. My boyfriend likes his women thick and has been pretty clear with that from the get go. His main concern of course is my health and supports me fully. For me fortunately, I dont feel it was a safety issue with him. I like to think even fat, i'm attractive to men, maybe not all men, but some. He says as long as I dont lose my tush i can get as skinny as I want!..lol

Just so you all understand: I believe my husband still loves me--he just misses the fat. I agree with the comments that he may be feeling a little threatened. That's unfortunate because he has nothing to worry about. I could have left him fat. I never had a problem attracting men no matter what size I've been. However, it appears that there may be some sense of security for a spouse if he/she thinks that there aren't many other people that will want you. My husband is naturally thin-eats anything and everything he wants and is very attractive. Women always flirt with him. It's hard for me to understand that after all these years he may feel threatened by my weight loss. But anything is possible. I expect we will be able to work this out. I love him very much. He has always made me feel pretty no matter what size. However, since this journey can be very confusing, it's nice to talk with others that may have similar experiences. Thanks to all for taking the time to reply.

I bet that's a hard spot you're in. I think he's adjusting to the changes just as much as you are right now and might be scared, as many spouses can get post-op. The safety thing, no one else looks or wants us if we're too fat (or so is the thought by many). I'm fortunate in that my husband is loving my weight loss and I really hope that your husband is on board in support with you once you really show him what good this has done for your health and overall self esteem. Keep assuring you love him and only him. I think I'd be in the same boat, scared, if the roles were reversed, as I'm an insecure person to begin with. My husband is slightly overweight and I have jealousy issues sometimes already (not possessive, but scared more or less) and I think if he lost that layer of belly fat, I'd feel threatened that he'd have an affair, when really, I know better. I think maybe this is how your husband might feel. He's scared and putting up the guard right now. Just keep assuring him of how much you love him and always have and always will. I bet he comes around. If you wanna talk more, feel free to message me. Good look and I bet this will clear up for you! I'm glad you came around to share with us so you can cope and figure this out. :)

Hi ...I am going through the same thing. I am 4 weeks post op and 11 kks down post op and 14 kgs pre op. My hubby doesn't compliment me even though he alwas did when i was heavier. Actually sometimes i have to askfor a compliment from him even though everyone else tells me i am looking GREAT! I am so confused!!!

My husband never liked me fat, so he is so pleased that I am skinny now. I will say the only thing that he misses is my big butt. I had a huge butt and now it is all gone. I cannot believe hoe small it got. I mean big butts run in my family, my skinny sister even has a big butt. I am not sure how I got rid of mine.

Men are very fickeled, and actually dont know what they want. 10 wks ago, my son's father was yelling in my face, and couldnt stand me, now that I have dropped 51 lbs, he's actually trying to smile and smell me again. You know i told him exactly where to go, and "dont touch me" His nickname is "sybil- who are you today?' Tell you husband, dont hate the player, hate the game. You are getting healty, and have him jump on the bus with you.

Totally know where you are coming from. My hubby not only missed the junk in my trunk but he also. Missed his eating buddy we used to go to buffets all of the time. The first week out of surgery he made me feel like crap. He refused to take our son out for his birthday dinner. He wanted chinese buffet. I had to go and sit and drink water I was on the clear liquid phase. Then that weekend he insisted we go out "drinking" w friends I of course couldn't drink. I ws told we would only be out for 2 hours. I stupidly agreed. Then after 4 hours I said I am leaving find a ride home. I told him how insensitive he was being. was me skinner that bad. I now take no insulin. no high blood pressure meds, or cholestrol. I kept sticking to my guns. It took a few months for him to realize that I am doing this to live not just to get thin. Now He complaments me all of the time. It is getting better.. You just have to keep on keepin on. hopefully he will come around. if not he never had your best intrests at heart. I t will take a while but don't get discouraged!!! Good Luck Heather

my husband likes my weight loss, but doesn't necessicerily like the fact that my bust has just about disappeared. i never had much of a chest even when greatly overweight, now it's just about gone, though kind of hanging. i also fell so much softer. i guess the fat felt firmer! i also never weighed less than him, now i am 22# less than him. he also has gained 14# in the last few weeks. these are a lot of changes for him to deal with. maybe your husband needs more time to get used to the changes. best wishes for continued success!