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gsueaglegirl
I found out that my husband figured out my password, and he logged on and read my journal entries and emails.
I am furious!!! He said he did it because he wants to learn. I told him to read the books I bought pre-op and to ask me if he has questions. But he's never done that. He went to two support groups with me (one pre-op and one post-op), but he hasn't done that since November.
It's bad enough that I feel like I am in a fish bowl all the time because people are always asking what I weigh or what size I am now. People are fascinated by how little I eat too. So I have to deal with all that crap, and NOW I have this to deal with too!
I've changed all my passwords, and I feel so violated. I have a right to privacy. This is one of my support groups, and I get support here that I can't get from him because he's never been through the surgery. Plus, sometimes I need to vent in my journal or emails and not have to worry about him reading it.
I hate that I can't trust him. Like I don't have enough to deal with right now.
Any ideas on dealing with this?
I am furious!!! He said he did it because he wants to learn. I told him to read the books I bought pre-op and to ask me if he has questions. But he's never done that. He went to two support groups with me (one pre-op and one post-op), but he hasn't done that since November.
It's bad enough that I feel like I am in a fish bowl all the time because people are always asking what I weigh or what size I am now. People are fascinated by how little I eat too. So I have to deal with all that crap, and NOW I have this to deal with too!
I've changed all my passwords, and I feel so violated. I have a right to privacy. This is one of my support groups, and I get support here that I can't get from him because he's never been through the surgery. Plus, sometimes I need to vent in my journal or emails and not have to worry about him reading it.
I hate that I can't trust him. Like I don't have enough to deal with right now.
Any ideas on dealing with this?
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I would have to consider counseling after a betrayal like this. He hasn't been supportive to begin with, and then to sneak like this makes me suspect he thinks you are doing something wrong and trying to catch you at it. What an insecure baby.
But I am so sorry this happened to you and that you feel so bad right now. Hang in there girl, it will get better. The Lord doesn't give us anymore than we can handle.
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I talked to my counselor about it yesterday. I have a support group meeting next week, and I am going to dare my husband to go to it.
I think he is feeling really insecure. He called me at home yesterday, and I set the phone down for a minute. When I picked it back up, he asked me who was over there because he heard a male voice in the background. I was in the living room watching The Shawshank Redemption on TV. It was Morgan Freeman's voice. I already have my husband to deal with. There's no way I have any patience to deal with another man too.
I think it's time to haul him in to marriage counseling.
My husband knows all of my passwords and stuff, but he doesn't get on my accounts. I think it is because I tell him about conversations, disscussions, some emails....just different things. He knows I have nothing to hide from him, so he doesn't even bother. Now, with as much time as I spend on the computer, I think if I didn't tell him anything about what I was doing or talking about, he would probably look. Either that or I just got a good one LOL
Marriage counceling never hurt anyone....sounds like you guys might try a round of it.
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