I know from reading your posts that many of you woman and men have wonderful supportive spouses or significant others and that is great! I ended a terrible on and off 3 year relationship a few months ago. I am so scared to date anyone and I am not even sure how to go about it. The last 8 years I have been with men who have not treated me well. I have lost over 120 lbs since my sleeve surgery in 2007 and my goal with the bypass surgery since 2009 is 120 more. I already feel like a better person, but it scares me to meet someone new, plus I feel like there is the added pressure of telling someone I was once huge. I am definitely a more positive person and my confidence is growing as I lose weight and take control of my life, but I am scared. I am scared that I will be angry at the new attention, some days I already am. I know that looks is a big part of inital attraction, but it bothers me that now people will be noticing me when they didn't before. I am really shy and not good with the whole dating thing anyway and maybe it seems like a silly complaint, but I don't want to be alone forever. I know a lot of people say I am young and have time, but that is easy to say when you have someone and do not live in such a small town. Most of the men in the age range I would want to date are divorced or have kids and that is something I really don't want to deal with. Also it seems people drink here alot, I mean I do go out and do not drink, but I just feel I have nothing in common with anyone my age. I don't party, no longer smoke and I can't eat gobs of food. Maybe this is a frustration more than anything, but I am wondering if any other young ladies are going through any of this?
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