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Caracter Faults?

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Hi all,im 7 months gamble free and its the longest time in my Adult life without a bet.
The change in me has been unbelivable,i have a new out look on life my self esteem has improved out of sight,and generally my life is fun not full of problem after problem.
There is one thing that is bugging me,i still tell some lies,im not saying i lie like i use to when i was a gambler because most of the things i said were not true, but now and again i lie over just really small things,like what i had for dinner or what i did on the weekend,i think its because of my past gambling,i just got use to lying and now i dont need to lie i do sometimes.
Is this a caracter fault?,i have been really thinking of what im saying at the moment and trying not to lie for anyting or any reason,so i hope i can address this situation,because i am a honest man who has or had a gambling addiction.
John
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Don't know but we have to keep such secrets when we gamble maybe its a protective thing that is still hanging on. I have to lie to anyone I haven't told that I am addicted and that is the majority of people I see, work with and family. I don't know if I will tell anymore people so lying and keeping secrets around my gambling life may be something I continue forever. I don't know what other think?
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White lies, black lies, red lies, blue lies, pink lies, yellow lies, we all lie. Not just addicts, not just CG, we all lie. I lied before I gambled. I still lie. And I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. I agree with eastwester, going back and undoing the lie is an good tool, embarrassing, yes, that's being humble. Promptly admitting we we wrong. Changing something that takes courage, because we can. Thank you for being so honest and bringing this topic up. You really gave me something to think about that's important to me. I'm not lying, you've helped me, friend.
deleted_user
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I am probably the biggest liar out there. I lie so much. I don't talk big about my self or anything. I never do it to show off. I am not that sort of person but i lie to people so i don't disappoint them and i am not talking about money wise but with other things. For example when i was at uni, i failed something then i would lie to my family about it. It was not like they could do or say something because i am an adult. Why am i such a liar? Maybe its just my personality. I can remember very far back. I would make up things to impress my parents?

I would do things that i dont want to do just so others could feel proud or impressed. Mainly my family.

What you said Ramma from my opinion i dont think it has something to do with gambling. Could be just the personality.

Dont know. Hope to hear more opinions here to get a better idea
joeyruready
joeyruready
How does it work?? Honesty openmindness and willingness. It is really important for me to be honest about how I feel. I consider my dishonesty a defect but I also think of my recovery as a process. I am not as good as i could be but I am not as horrible as I used to be. my last bed was november 23 1999. I totally have an attitude of grattitude. I am not perfect I dont do everything right and I dont have to either. Today its enough that I just dont make anything worse. I try to share what I have recieved. Dont beat urself up for not always being honest, just try to face it when you do lie, the more we comfess our faults the less they comtrol our lives. I hope you find some encouragment from these words.
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