Food Addiction Support Group
An individual suffering from a food addiction disorder frequently experiences episodes of uncontrolled eating, or binging, during which they may feel frenzied or out of control. They will eat much more quickly than is normal, and continue to eat even past the point of being uncomfortably full. Binging in this way is generally followed by a period of intense guilt feelings...
Hi everyone. I have overcome bingeing for just over 2 weeks now. My family know im trying to eat healthily but they dont know im also trying to give up such a huge part of my life with the bingeing.
My dad was also very big at my age and tonight he asked me if there was more ways he could help with the healthy eating. He then said, the problem with you is that your a secret eater. I was shocked! He said he'd also done the same and has noticed that over the past few months i seem to have been very low. He managed to lose the weight and was offering help. But i just broke down in front of him.
My mom and my sis have no idea what im going through as they are stick thin! He said that if he had his way he would remove everything from the cupboards that was harmful to me but he cant coz they would kill him! However, hes not always the best of help even though he claims to know what im going through. Tonight i had a weight watchers lasagne and then i had a cookie. But i had planned this into my calories for the day so it was fine.
He then proceeded to tell me that he thought it was silly to have that. And why did i feel i needed to. Coz i had decided that this was my treat for the week!!! I also didnt eat it in the living room, i had it in the dining room simply coz i was watching a different program on the tv, but he reckons it was secret eating! Is it just me being defensive or what? I didnt see it as secret eating coz i didnt grab it and make a run for my bedroom. They could all come past me to the kitchen so they could see what i was eating. It makes me so mad!!
Its like he wants to help me, but hes also quite negative. Im trying so hard and im so fed up of carrying this extra weight around. Its like he wants to keep me depressed or something i just dont understand. Sorry for writing so much but i needed to get that out!
Loz x
My dad was also very big at my age and tonight he asked me if there was more ways he could help with the healthy eating. He then said, the problem with you is that your a secret eater. I was shocked! He said he'd also done the same and has noticed that over the past few months i seem to have been very low. He managed to lose the weight and was offering help. But i just broke down in front of him.
My mom and my sis have no idea what im going through as they are stick thin! He said that if he had his way he would remove everything from the cupboards that was harmful to me but he cant coz they would kill him! However, hes not always the best of help even though he claims to know what im going through. Tonight i had a weight watchers lasagne and then i had a cookie. But i had planned this into my calories for the day so it was fine.
He then proceeded to tell me that he thought it was silly to have that. And why did i feel i needed to. Coz i had decided that this was my treat for the week!!! I also didnt eat it in the living room, i had it in the dining room simply coz i was watching a different program on the tv, but he reckons it was secret eating! Is it just me being defensive or what? I didnt see it as secret eating coz i didnt grab it and make a run for my bedroom. They could all come past me to the kitchen so they could see what i was eating. It makes me so mad!!
Its like he wants to help me, but hes also quite negative. Im trying so hard and im so fed up of carrying this extra weight around. Its like he wants to keep me depressed or something i just dont understand. Sorry for writing so much but i needed to get that out!
Loz x
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I have a similar problem to yours. I have had a weight problem all my life and my father has not let me or my mother forget that. he has always tried to embarrase me infront of my friends when i was in high school and in middle school. even now, on sundays after church, when we eat lunch, he constantly wathces everything i eat and makes comments about stuff. like with the cookie, my father would have stated that it was not neccessary for me to eat that. i don't need it. i know that i don't need it, but i want it. my personal beleif is that our fathers are not happy with themselves and so they feel the need to project ( a definse mechanism) his feelings and fears of being overweight onto us. does that make sinse?? here is the funny part, my father has a degree in psych and did marriage counseling. he thinks that reinforcement wheather it be neg or poss is good. whatever!! hang in there!! i am here for you!!
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