Food Addiction Support Group
An individual suffering from a food addiction disorder frequently experiences episodes of uncontrolled eating, or binging, during which they may feel frenzied or out of control. They will eat much more quickly than is normal, and continue to eat even past the point of being uncomfortably full. Binging in this way is generally followed by a period of intense guilt feelings...
I get so frustrated when I finally share a little bit of my struggles with someone - usually someone I'm fairly close to and spend a good bit of time with - and they don't get the severity.
I have a friend that keeps telling me about how her sister used to "do that" (binge) and when she stopped the weight just dropped off. She tells me this by way of encouragement, but she doesn't see that it is more than be just being bored and greedy. Her sister never sought help, never say a professional and was never formally diagnosed with anything, but I feel like she is comparing me to her and saying, "well she did it, why can't you." This isn't the only person I've talked with who has reacted this way, but she is the most recent. I really want to scream. "You have no idea how hard this is." "You have no idea the HELL I put myself through every day." If it were sooooo easy to just STOP, then it wouldn't be a disorder, would it? Why are so many, highly intelligent and educated people clueless about the severity and reality of this disorder. This is not just a "bad habit" or "poor diet." This is a real medical condition and no one seems to get that, which just ends up making me feel horrible and worse. I feel like it is my fault and I should be able to just buckle-down and "fix-it" when my friends talk like this. It makes me feel like it is an issue of will-power, which is completely and totally irrelevant in regards to an Eating Disorder.
Also, just "wanting it" - that's not enough by itself either. People ask me that too sometimes. "You just have to hit rock bottom so you want it enough." or "When you get tired of it, you'll quit." or "You've just got to want it more."
F- OFF people!!!! (That's what I really want to say - but what I do say is "Thanks for the advice. I'll think about that.)
I have a friend that keeps telling me about how her sister used to "do that" (binge) and when she stopped the weight just dropped off. She tells me this by way of encouragement, but she doesn't see that it is more than be just being bored and greedy. Her sister never sought help, never say a professional and was never formally diagnosed with anything, but I feel like she is comparing me to her and saying, "well she did it, why can't you." This isn't the only person I've talked with who has reacted this way, but she is the most recent. I really want to scream. "You have no idea how hard this is." "You have no idea the HELL I put myself through every day." If it were sooooo easy to just STOP, then it wouldn't be a disorder, would it? Why are so many, highly intelligent and educated people clueless about the severity and reality of this disorder. This is not just a "bad habit" or "poor diet." This is a real medical condition and no one seems to get that, which just ends up making me feel horrible and worse. I feel like it is my fault and I should be able to just buckle-down and "fix-it" when my friends talk like this. It makes me feel like it is an issue of will-power, which is completely and totally irrelevant in regards to an Eating Disorder.
Also, just "wanting it" - that's not enough by itself either. People ask me that too sometimes. "You just have to hit rock bottom so you want it enough." or "When you get tired of it, you'll quit." or "You've just got to want it more."
F- OFF people!!!! (That's what I really want to say - but what I do say is "Thanks for the advice. I'll think about that.)
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this is relationship #3 where a man was cheating and lying. I waited way too long to leave.. almost 2 years. Hard to believe that a man who showed remorse, went to church twice a week and attended support groups, was really a POS inside. Unreal.
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We were together for 4 years. We were best friends. We were always together, always laughing. People used to say how great we were together. The last year or so he' been planning fishing holidays with mates, skiing, anything without even a thought for me or what I'm doing. We both worked 4 on 4 off shifts for the last few months but only get to spend 2 of those days off together. Should be...
Wish I could help but I don't really know what the key is. I found OA helpful but haven't been able to get there for awhile. What is helpful about OA is people that get it because they have it too.
I know one thing - I quit smoking after 20 years (well I fell of the wagon for a good reason, but I'm basicly done) and I find it easier to quit smoking than to quit binging.
And no, the weight doesn't just "come off" if someone quits. It will come off if all the person ate before was crap and then they switch to healthy eating pattern.
For me, nothing comes off, because I eat healthy food, but too much and don't exercise. If I exercise I just want to binge even more, because my body thinks it is starving.
So..people who don't have this problem really don't and won't understand.
My best friend's MIL went into cardiac arrest 26 !!!!!!! times in 38 hours. I worked in the hospital a 12 hr shift and all I heard was "code blue, room 5226" time and time again. She was intubated and on a baloon pump for the heart. They saved her and she went home.
She is morbidly obese and a diabetic. Continues to eat everything in site.
I think food addiction is like heroin. only one can live without heroin, but one can't live without food. that's why it's so hard.
Forgive the ignorant and hang in there. When we put our mind to it, everything is possible. Hopefully with support of others here you can reach your goal.
Hugs.
I remember all the times I cried to my ex-boyfriend, asking him to help me. And all the times that he promised he would. He never did. And he's going to be a psychologist!!
I'm here for you, Ybbil!