Food Addiction Support Group

An individual suffering from a food addiction disorder frequently experiences episodes of uncontrolled eating, or binging, during which they may feel frenzied or out of control. They will eat much more quickly than is normal, and continue to eat even past the point of being uncomfortably full. Binging in this way is generally followed by a period of intense guilt feelings...

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All or nothing

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Thats always been my attitude and I know its a bad one. Its not just regarding food, its with friendships too among other things. Say for instance if I was in sales and tried selling a friend something that declined my offer, I would end up declining the friendship. But as for food that is my attitude too and its a bad one. In order for you to stop binging on treats you have to basically stop and DEPRIVE yourself from eating those treats. If you binge on "something sinful" then you feel like shit after. If you deprive yourself and use up energy on staying away from what you are craving, it leaves you feeling like shit too.. you can't win either way. The best case scenario would be to eat a treat in moderation to prevent the binge and to prevent the deprivation, but that is almost impossible for me to do. And I know I am not the only one here. I am not the only one who has that "all or nothing" type of thinking. What do you do about it?
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It is still something I'm having to work at every day. I'm hoping that once I'm settled into a job, and a day job at that, I'll can try and chip away at a normal meal schedule.

Right now I stick with leaving giant notes for myself about eating the meals I'm supposed to. Or leaving a can of soup out on the counter. That way I don't have the reason to give my husband the fateful call to bring home fast food.

But, yeah.....I'm trying. If you figure something out, you let me know too, huh?
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Is the same way with me. Ether I eat well and work out or I eat a small chocolate and is all gone from there no work out and here comes the binging. "what is the point of working out if i ate that chocolate I might as well just screw up bad" If I'm going to feel bad for one chocolate might as well feel bad for 5000 calories worth of food.
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deleted_user
I also struggle with all or nothing thinking...SUCKS!!
Marah
Marah
I find if I don't ever allow myself any treats, it is like trying to hold back a floodgate. Eventually I loose and end up eating more than if I let my self have a little when I first want it. I am struggling right now because I did not binge at Halloween and I really miss it. I am worried about Christmas. It is like the whole month of December, not just one day. Giving up binging, I almost feel like someone has died. This was my first Halloween without binging, coming up my first Christmas without it. I almost feel like I am in morning. Does that make sense to anyone else?
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I can definitely understand and I am not strong enough for that kind of added stress right now, excuses excuses I know but I am just not strong enough for a lot of things...
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Marah - i so get the mourning part. i only went two weeks and i got this kind of mini-panic-attack just imagining never doing it again. it has been such a big part of my life for the last seven years. when i do get beyond it - when i do let it go for good - there will definitely be mourning. how are you dealing with that part?

Missy - i get that you aren't strong enough yet to let go of bingeing - i guess the way to keep moving forward, is to figure out how you can get stronger - what is taking your power? what is zapping your strength?
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I wish I could tell you, well its not just binging that I am not strong enough to let go of, other crap too and wonder if I ever will... my guard is up so high and so thick I don't think it will ever come down, people have let me down so many times, why should I forgive those who have hurt me and all.. on to other subjects, well I guess binging ties into it and I know I am hurting myself but I just don't seem to care anymore
Aberlaine
Aberlaine
We've been taught as babies that eating is pleasurable. We got treats when we were good. Our brains are conditioned to eat when we feel bad, in order to make ourselves feel better. But it doesn't work that way. I'm an emotional eater. All my best made plans fly out the window when I get angry or depressed.

I've found that if I stay away from sugar specifically, I'm more in control of what I eat. But deep down, I'm still a binge eater. Always will be.
Marah
Marah
Well, sooo, I sometimes deal with it by going shopping. I go to Penney's Outlet and buy a new blouse or pair of jeans that didn't used to fit me. I am trying not to trade compulsive eating for compulsive shopping, lol, but I can get one new thing for under 20 dollars. Sometimes that makes me feel better. But I am really worried about the upcoming Holiday season. Big binge time, former binge time. I hope my family and friends will try to understand and not undermine my efforts. That is the hardest part.
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Growing up I lived with my mom and gram. My gram was Hungarian and an incredible cook. I was made to eat everything on my plate (I was able to stay skinny until I had my son). We also had to eat dinner quick because my gram wanted dishes done b4 Wheel of Fortune came on-to this day, I believe in eating all the food on my plate and I still eat fast. I try to slow down and just cant seem to-its like it is ingrained in me to eat fast.
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